Stop rocking??

Nichole - posted on 12/02/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I love rocking/cuddling my little boy to sleep, but I really think he's old enough now to go to bed on his own (He's 14 1/2 months). Or is he not? I usually rock him for 15-60 minutes depending on the how much he fights sleep, or if Daddy puts him to bed, Daddy cuddles him for about the same amount of time. When is he old enough to go to bed on his own? And how do I ease the transition?

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Hayley - posted on 12/03/2010

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I'd suggest transitioning to a new bedtime rountine that eventually eliminates the rocking. If you start to cut it out entirely he may freak out, I'd say put a time limit on it. Perhaps start with a story, followed by 15 minutes of rocking and regardless of whether he falls asleep or not then put him in bed. Eventually cut back the rocking to maybe 2 or 3 minutes and then virtually nothing. Ween him off gently and good luck.

Dora - posted on 12/03/2010

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There is no age to determine when they are too old to be rocked and cuddled. Sometimes babies and even children just want to feel their parent's touch because is helps comfort them and soothes them. I say rock and cuddle him for as long as he will let you because there will come a day when he will just want to be placed in his bed/crib and that will crush your heart because it will feel like he doesn't need you. If it doesn't bother you and doesn't interfere with anything then just continue what with what works for your family and makes everyone happy. My son is now 2 1/2yrs old and he can't be bothered to be rocked at night anymore. I miss those nights. It was our one on one time when we just sang together and had little chit chats. Now he just wants to be placed in his big boy bed.

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September - posted on 12/03/2010

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I loved rocking our son as well however at about 6 months he started to refuse being rocked so we then transitioned into letting him fall to sleep on his own and he did really well with it. I think that if you're enjoying it and he's not resisting it then why stop? He is old enough to go to bed on his own but it's going to take some time to figure out the best way of going about it as each child is different. What works well for our son is saying a prayer, giving him his stuffed animals he likes to sleep with and covering him up and saying good night. Of course this all takes place after a nice warm bath which I think clams him. You'll find what works best for you and your child and if that means continuing to rock him, I don't see the harm in it. Good luck!

Nicole - posted on 12/03/2010

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I agree with Hayley that if you want to get him weened, I would do it slowly not cold shoulder. I was always able to put my daughter straight to bed but for about a week, she would cry everytime we put her to bed and just leave. Most nights she's ok to go to bed but once in a while she needs the extra support of a parent there so I sit with her 5-10 minutes tops. I see nothing wrong with letting your little one know everything is ok and to just snuggle for a bit. Good luck.

Aneta - posted on 12/03/2010

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Hi, I think you could give your son his favorite stuffed toy and explain him that he can hug the toy and go to bed coz the toy is also very sleepy. Also when u put him in bed try to put on some lullaby music for 10min.

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