Stubborn and Not Cracking

Heather - posted on 06/20/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




How do you get through to a determined 2 year old without breaking her spirit or determination? It is what I love about her but it makes dealing with her a real challenge.


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Dawn - posted on 04/13/2010




Something that I have learned with my almost 3 year old who definitely is very strong willed is that it's okay to give her choices. If you give her the option of the pink socks or the purple socks she is still putting socks on even though she is picking the pair to put on. The same goes with almost anything in your daily routine! You are still in "charge" so to speak of what she is doing, but she also gets some say in it as well without struggle things get accomplished! There are times however when it has to be your way, and you just have to make sure you follow through. If a child who is very strong willed knows they can get to you and get you to give in, they will keep trying. So stick to your "punishment" or ultamatum. Don't give in! If you said lunch before cookie, she has to eat lunch. Even if she doesn't eat right then, leave her food there for her to come back to! ... if she eats it she can have that cookie!!

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I don't think that teaching her limits will break her spirit. She will continue to be determined no matter what. I keep telling my son that I love him and want him to be safe so he needs to sometimes follow rules and do what I want him to do. I also give him fun alternate things to do instead and try to distract him from the inappropriate behavior. I use time outs when necessary or take away toys, ect..for a consequence.

Jennifer - posted on 06/21/2009




Sorry I can't help I could use some advice on this too thus I replied so I could see others advice on this matter =) !!

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