Suggestions for moving my son into his own bed?

Kim - posted on 03/23/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )




I've been diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis and so my two year old son has been sleeping with me because I couldn;t lift him. I'm still having trouble but just bought me and him new beds. I'm nervous and need advice on how to separate us and get him sleeping in his own bed.


Louise - posted on 03/24/2011




This is a really hard habbit to break but I can understand why you did it. Make a big thing of him having his own room and bed and let him help you decorate his room so he is more inclined to stay there. Explain to him that he is a big boy now and like all his friends he needs to sleep in his own bed. For the first three nights he will get out often and you will have to return him. If you stick to this he will learn not to bother as he knows you are going to send him back. It is a battle of the wills, who will win you or him. It is hard work but can be achieved. Just stay strong, you will be rewarded with your own bed back!

Mandy - posted on 03/25/2011




with that also try staying in the room by the door i do this with my 2 yr old (15min give or take sometimes longer sometimes less) ill justsit by her door dont look at him but just knowin your there until he looks away or you think hes calm maybe even asleep. when you leave dont give eye cntact its like opening up to a conversation or play time say your goodnights before hand. eventually it will work out ive been doing this for abou 1 week or so and it working great..

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I agree with Louise. Also make it a BIG exciting thing about him sleeping in his bed. perhaps there are some books at the local library you can check out to read together about how exciting a big boy bed is. you may also want to install a night light in his room, and also explain to him how to get your attention if he needs something. what should he do if he wakes up scared in the middle of the night? what should he do when he wakes up in the morning? do lots of practice! kids love practice. Lots of praise when he does practice correct. MAke this fun and exciting and happy!

And then when he wakes up in the middle of the night and comes into your bed, just gently take him back to his bed. repeat- over and over. it will be one ot three nights of miserable tiredness for you - but then it will get better.


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Alda - posted on 04/03/2011




My twin girls are 2.5 and they've been in toddler beds for about 2 months now. We have a stairgate in their room, and after story time we tuck them in, leave a soft nightlight on, close the gate and that's it. Some nights they're out cold and some nights we still hear stomping, giggling and singing coming from upstairs for an hour or more. We still have periods where we have to do controlled crying, just like when they were in their cots, but mostly they're doing really well. I suppose it helps that they've had their own room right from the start. Just don't let it turn into a power struggle, like someone else said - that will turn into a nightmare. You're the mother and what you say goes, it's not open for discussion. Hope he settles in soon. Good luck :-)

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you cannot tie a child to a bed (duct tape might work..)

in all seriousness - don't fight the keeping them in bed - you WILL LOSE! just like you cannot force them to go to sleep. I have done this. My son's room is completly childproofed so he cannot hurt himself in it. he has only one or two low stimulation toys (like a small set of blocks) and whatever books we are going to read that night. His room is BORING basically. We do the bedtime reoutine, I tuck him into bed. It is then "Bedroom time" - I am officially off duty. he can play with what is in his room as long as he wants. Some nights I have gone in there and he is sound asleep two minutes after I put him down. some nights he is still playing quietly thirty minutes after Iput him down. Some nights I find him asleep in the middle of the floor with the lights on.
But there was no power struggle and no fighting on my part. I had a great quiet evening to myself.

I will caveot this - If he is still up about thirty minutes after Iput him down - I will go in, turn the light off and simply say, "it is bedtime now" and tuck him back into bed - kiss his forhead and that is it- not a big production. at this point he doesn't fight me and is usually asleep within two minutes.

Good luck!

Kim - posted on 03/26/2011




Thanks for the advice. I have ha him helping to decorate and pick out his bedding, and wall decorations and all of that. My other concern is he wont stay in his bed. He has a night light and gates in his room but I can't see him laying in bed.

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