Tantrums

Jess - posted on 05/23/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son is almost 18 months and when he is angry he starts, slapping us in the face, banging his head on the floor or wall...NOTHING will calm him

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Have you noticed if your attention makes the tantrum more severe? Ignoring my son made his tantrums shorter and less severe and now he doesn't have them anymore. Any talking or physical contact by me made it worse. Every child is different though and you certainly don't want him to get hurt. My son only did the head banging once. I let him bang his head on the carpeted floor while I ignored him. I didn't want my attention to reinforce the behavior and I prayed that he would stop once he realized it hurt and he did. Then he got up and came over to me because he said he had a boo boo and wanted me to hug him. If it had ever gotten really bad I would have tried the reverse hug like Heather suggested.

Aidgene Mae - posted on 05/24/2009

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my 2yr old son is also like that, he start hurting anyone and throwing everything, but he doesn't hurting his self. If the situation is like that me or my mom bring him in the corner and ask him why, what is he want? and talk to him and if the thing he wants is not good for him we explain it to him thats its not good for him and explain what he did is bad. anyway we cannot stop kids for tantrum. but we can talk to them and try to understand what they want.

Heather - posted on 05/23/2009

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Tantrums are normal. But if he continues to be a danger to hurting himself or you, hold him like a reverse hug. Hold his legs with your legs, his arms with your arms, etc. Just talk to him while you are holding him. Tell him you love him and understand he is upset. You will let him go when he is done crying and being upset. You don't want him to hurt himself.

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I saw that someone else had a question like this a couple of weeks ago about her daughter. I don't know if you can search these posts? Anyway, my son is only a year old so we're not really into tantrums yet, but I think that what I'd do is tell him that you see he is upset and that you're going to take him to his room (or the car or just away from the situation) until he is calm enough to discuss it. The other moms who answered the previous question also said that just ignoring it will probably make it go away after a while because they're just trying to get a reaction.

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