teen step son very naughty

Mellissa - posted on 09/21/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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cant handle his dad not havin rules when im so stricked on my own. im suppose to b getting married in jan and i cant live with the disrespect. suggestions PLEASE.

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Mary - posted on 09/21/2009

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I would definitely talk to your fiance, I know I couldn't marry someone who let ANYONE disrespect me. Especially his kid, Its not ok if he plans on marrying you. If it doesn't change, it never will and you will resent both of them eventually and will lead to divorce oneday. You're not married yet.

Daisy - posted on 09/21/2009

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I can't emphasize enough the importance of making sure you communicate your concerns with your husband and come up with a plan about how to handle situations that may arise. You both will need to have an agreement of how things are handled asap otherwise things will continue to get difficult and it will further have an effect on your relationship with your soon to be husband. I am have a 16yr old step-son and I have been married with my husband for 5 yrs, it is no easy. We actually separated for about a yr as a result of the dynamics of the relationship between me and his son. It is very hard when you have expecations and your husband has different ones. Learning to choose your battles is very important and making sure you keep the lines of communication open with your soon to be husband and remember that you can't change his son, he is a product of his parents before you. Good Luck!

Anita - posted on 09/21/2009

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hmmm....i think u need to sit down and talk to ur husband to be and tell him what is bothering u...at the end of the day u and him need to be on the same page and have the same set of "rules" for everyone in the house...ask ur future hubby also if he has a problem with u displining his kids the way u would with yours..if he says no then do exactly that...

Anita - posted on 09/21/2009

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hmmm....i think u need to sit down and talk to ur husband to be and tell him what is bothering u...at the end of the day u and him need to be on the same page and have the same set of "rules" for everyone in the house...ask ur future hubby also if he has a problem with u displining his kids the way u would with yours..if he says no then do exactly that...

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