temper tantrums

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Betsi - posted on 11/19/2009

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Absolutely! As long as you are consistent, timeout is a fantastic form of discipline. It is good to give a warning first, to give the child a chance to stop the unwanted behavior. If they do not, it is recommended that a child sit one minute for each year they are old. I explain to my son why he is going to timeout. Once he is calm, and has been sitting for the approximate amount of time that is recommended, I explain again what he did wrong and what he could have done differently. I ask for an apology, a hug and a kiss. Time out has worked extremely well for us, and I believe I have a very well behaved little boy because of it.

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Alicia - posted on 11/26/2009

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Quoting Betsi:

Absolutely! As long as you are consistent, timeout is a fantastic form of discipline. It is good to give a warning first, to give the child a chance to stop the unwanted behavior. If they do not, it is recommended that a child sit one minute for each year they are old. I explain to my son why he is going to timeout. Once he is calm, and has been sitting for the approximate amount of time that is recommended, I explain again what he did wrong and what he could have done differently. I ask for an apology, a hug and a kiss. Time out has worked extremely well for us, and I believe I have a very well behaved little boy because of it.



EXACTLY what I'd say! great explaination!

User - posted on 11/25/2009

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I think they work well, but you have to be very consistent with doing it everytime and a good rule of thumb is one minute for every year old. When they are just throwing a fit (not getting in trouble for an infraction) sometimes it's better to put them in their room or crib or somewhere separate to calm down rather than a chair/corner, then the one minute thing may not apply, wait for them to be calm. I like the chair for punishments though, it's more restricting.

Jenna - posted on 11/25/2009

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If you can learn to recognize when your child is about to have a tantrum, it is best to jump in and divert their attention to something else. I know it is not always easy, my almost 3yr old is the worst for temper tantrums. be patient, stay calm and get down to thier level, if need be put them in the laundrey or somewhere with no distractions and leave them there til they stop crying etc. good luck!!

Akeela - posted on 11/20/2009

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definetely..my son is 3 now and i've been using it for almost 1 1/2 years now and it still works!! wht i tell him is "when ur finished crying come to mama" and now the time outs are shorter and shorter but does the trick..he has learned to compose himself and realize tht the way to get something is not fussing or throwing a tantrum..i also use time out when he does something naughty..so tht he will realize his mistake..after the session he comes and says sorry to the person tht he hurt and i talk to him abt it and wht he could do to avoid whatever tht caused him to behave tht way... it really really works! :-)

Parvathy - posted on 11/19/2009

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i have a 17 mo old..and am not really sure he would grasp the concept - i must give it a try though... ignoring has worked for us most of the time..i basically make sure he is safe and ignore the screaming and the crying..takes him a few mins..but then he automatically just comes to me and communicates his needs!

Selina - posted on 11/19/2009

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does at times. although for most temper tantrums we ignore our son. Now they don't last for more than a few secs.

Dannie - posted on 11/19/2009

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For my son it does! He is 17 months and he gets the whole concept! If he falls out I tell him to go to his chair and he'll cry all the way there. He sits there for a few and when he is calm I tell him to come out. He usually gives me a hug, my husband said thats cause he thinks it'll get him out of trouble.

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