Tempers....

Jacqui - posted on 01/21/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son is two years old. He has a horable temper. I don't know what to do. It seems like nothing I do makes him stop. He throw fits, give me evil looks, says no, throws things. I am at a complete lost on what to do... Please help me?!

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Becky - posted on 01/22/2009

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I have a very strong-willed almost 3-year-old daughter. She tests me on everything, and I have to use time out with her. I would ignore his fits and evil looks. When he says "no", tell him to say "no thank you". I got a big tip from my daycare provider and started saying "stop" instead of "no" and that's helped. If he throws something, take it away until he can prove that he won't throw things. I wouldn't put him in time out in his bed, but in a "naughty chair" or step. Set the timer for 2 minutes (since he's 2) and tell him if he gets up, you'll start the timer all over again. You might need to watch him. I have luck with my daughter when she sees me, but I'm ignoring her and pretending to do something else. Then discuss why he went into time out and give hugs and I love yous. Hope that helps. Also you might check out a book I've found helpful: Raising Your Spirited Child by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. It's helped me a lot. I tried spanking and it didn't work. And it sounds like it's not working for you either. Remember to give lots of love and attention whenever he does something right! Good luck! = )

Sarah - posted on 01/21/2009

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i have the same problem with the fits i would say just ignore them and let him do his thing. but for the throwing of things that needs to be corrected. i have started the time out for that reason and it seems to be working for the time all you need is a mat in the floor in a corner and sit him there it may take a few trys at first but after awhile it begins to work out and the throwing of things will get less and less and if you ignore the fits they dont last as long as they would but trying to correct it or showing sympathy

Danielle - posted on 01/21/2009

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when hes moves tell him to stay there . some were u can see him move off the spot were u put him it dos work . he will move to see what u do but dont say any thing to him just put him back on the spot and when u think its time to come of the spot tell him that he sould of not do it and make him say sorry and than if he dos say it than give him a hug . it was for my son . and he has got a really horable temper

Danielle - posted on 01/21/2009

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my 3 year old has a horable temper and ever thing i do is worg i do time out with him and live him there on hes own but i make sure that i can see him im a mum of 3 he is like it most of the time . evey thing i ask him is no are i dont like it he can not talk all that good so that dont really help! him . ur son will grow out of it . it just takes time its really hard

Gabrielle - posted on 01/21/2009

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I think it's less a temper and more frustration. He can't communicate what he wants all the time, he can't get what he wants all the time, and he doesn't know how to deal with that yet. We do a variety of things when our 29-month-old throws a fit: we ignore it, make fun of her until she stops crying and starts giggling, we distract her with something else, we talk quietly to her, we give her time outs/time apart, and we always give hugs at the end. The good news is, eventually, they will grow out of this stage. In the meantime, set rules, be consistent, follow through on the consequences, and try to keep a sense of humor.

Jacqui - posted on 01/21/2009

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I tell him no and put him in his bed. He will do things that he knows he not supposed to do. For example climb the changing table (he is a little monkey), and when i catch him he says "Out Oh," and starts climbing down. I even started spanking his bottom, but it seems like it doesn't faze him. He gets red so easy that I am afraid to do it hard. I tried using different things like a rolled up paper, because of the noise thanking the sound will scare him. I just hope he grows out of quickely.  He is trying my patience.  Which is why I am looking for other methods.

Cara - posted on 01/21/2009

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My son does the same thing all we do is time out and put him in his bed all he needs is some rules to fallow and if he doesnt falllow them then a set punishment every time

Angie - posted on 01/21/2009

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I also have a strong willed 2 year old.  Most children go through the terrible 2s.  The only thing you can do is keep trying to correct him and wait for him to outgrow this phase.  I do time outs and sometimes have to sit there with him so he doen't get up.  He is trying to test you and you cant give up and let him win.  My 4 year old was the same way then magically around 3 he began to change and listen to me.  It seems like a long way away but just be patient, this too shall pass. 

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