Terrible 2's ???

Katie - posted on 07/16/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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What exactly would you categorise as the terrible 2's?



My daughter is 21 months old and for the past 8 weeks or so she has become so unhappy! She moans so much, crys a lot and is generally just a grumpy bum! She throws her toys, his, screams, lashes out, throws food on the floor etc.



Im hoping this is just a phase i.e. the terrible 2's. I have a newborn baby so im finding her moods really hard to deal with. She wont play alone any more, we have desperately brought her lots of new toys in the past few weeks but it hasn't helped she just throws them at us!!



We are using the naughty step which helps but only temporarily!



I just really want my happy little girl back :(

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Tracy - posted on 07/16/2010

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you do have a newborn along with the 21 mos old? how old is your baby? the only reason I ask is do you think maybe some of the behavior is jealousy because now she's not getting as much attention. Kids at that age get frustrated easily and can't express themselves, so sometimes throwing stuff is their way of expressing the frustration they feel.

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Deborah - posted on 07/18/2010

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My daughter just turned 3 and I hoped the terrible twos were over... she still has a quick temper but that runs in the family so I'm trying to teach her how to deal with it.



This does sound like the terrible twos, but it is possible that the new baby is aggrivating it more. I didn't go much past 7 months in my pregnancy so I'm not sure how tired/worn out/fed up you got towards the end, maybe the fact that you knew the baby was coming and were redecorating/buying clothes etc have made your daughter feel like she's being pushed away or replaced.



Can you try to get her to help out with the baby, pass you nappies and wipes or things and tell her she's a big sister now etc



Try to set some time aside just for you and her, If your partner is still in the picture get him to deal with the baby for an hour or so a day so that you and your daughter can spend some quality time together, It probably won't stop the tantrums etc in general but it might decrease them.



Also to look at it from a 2 year old, when your baby cries you go to him (as of course would be expected) so maybe your daughter is trying to get your attention by crying too, try to point out that the baby cries because he's only a baby, and this is his only way of getting attention, but that she's 2 now and a big girl and a big sister, and she should be asking for your attention not crying for it.



I only have 1, and I was a single child, so I have no personal experience of this matter, this advice comes from what I have read and what other mums have suggested in other posts...

Nicole - posted on 07/18/2010

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I would have to agree with Tracy! My son is 3 years old and he talks back and throws fits, screams and cries throwing his feet in the air.. He was soo goood at 2.. But its just a stage Katie, she will grow out of it :)

Shawnteska - posted on 07/17/2010

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My son is in the terrible two stages and it kills me . because he tells me no and I tell him not to do that. I hope it ends soon because it is getting on my last nerve. if I have any left.

Tracy - posted on 07/17/2010

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Katie - i so hate to tell you this, but seriously I think the 3's are worse than the 2, the 2's they do the tantrum thing because they can't express what they feel or whatever reason, but at 3 they talk more and pick up EVERYTHING you or anyone else says and if your child is like mine they NEVER forget anything - the group I am friends with, we all have 3 yr olds now and said we'd trade them in a heartbeat to be back to the 2's - I hope it gets better for you - I'll trade a tantrum 2 for a sassy 3??

Katie - posted on 07/17/2010

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Hey thanks for the reply, yes i do he is 2 weeks old but she has been like this for a good 2 months now.. some people say maybe she could sense the pregnancy and that things where about to change? who knows.

Hopefully she will be happy again soon :) xx

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