Terrible threes!!!

Tammy - posted on 10/28/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




Can anyone tell me why my 3 year old daughter is an angel at preschool and a nightmare at home???? She screams, yells and mouths off and has temper tantrums! This morning she threw her bowl of cereal on the floor because she did not want it. We put her in a time out OFTEN! and she'll cry the whole time in it and say she is sorry and 10 minutes later is at it again. Does anyone have any advice or a solution? Thanks


Karen - posted on 10/28/2010




Sounds just like me at that age. My mom said she could see my mood changing as I walked away from preschool and into the car. My problem was I was a perfectionist. I stressed myself out trying to be absolutely perfect at school and then would come home at let loose. It probably would have helped if my parents recognized the problem and talked with me about it. It's a problem that's plagued me for my whole life (although I keep the tantrums to a minimum now hehehe).


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September - posted on 10/29/2010




I personally hate the term "terrible 2's 3's whatever it may be because IMO it's more about understanding the phase of life one is in and working with your child so that the both of you understand this phase more clearly. Once you're able to do so it makes things not so "terrible"! I would guess that your daughter acts out at home because it's where she is most comfortable. I think that even adults "let down" at home as opposed to doing so at work as well. Have you tried any positive reinforcement? Our son does best with positive discipline strategies so it's what we stick to. We don't do time outs, taking away privileges, spanking or things of that sort and our son is very well behaved. There is a wonderful book that you can read as well that could be helpful, it's called Parenting with Love and Logic. I love it personally and found it to be very helpful! Good luck :)

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I don't have any advice because I'm in the same boat as you, only my son isn't in school. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone in your struggle with the 3 year old. MIne goes from a sweet, helpful angel to an unruly tantrum filled troll in a split second. A scolding or a time out from me and 10 minutes later he's apologizing and hugging me and back to his normal sweet self.

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