terrible two's and a newborn. HELP!!

Jessica - posted on 07/11/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have a 2 year old girl who is in her terrible two stage and a 3 weeks old baby girl who i am breastfeeding. my 2 year old gets very frustrated when she is bored and there is nothing to do. i try to get her settled with a movie or coloring books etc while i am breastfeeding but she always acts up. i know its hard for her because we have a new addition to the family but i am at my wits end. how can i make her not feel left out? any other advice is welcome too!


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Katie - posted on 07/16/2010




I am going through the exact same thing! My little boy is 2 weeks old and my daughter is 21 months old... when you find the answer please let me know! :) x

Tiffany - posted on 07/16/2010




My kids are 2 years apart too..My little boy was born January 15 2008, and my little girl was born January 29 2010. They are pretty good together. I dont know if it makes a difference that my oldest is a boy or not, but he loves her. I just make sure that he is included in everything that i do. I let him help me wash her bottles and even with the breast feeding. I think that he is just curious. i tell him that this is the way mama feed his sister and i used to do the same thing with him when he was a baby. After i explained it to him he went on with his business. Maybe you should just try to included her a little bit and then she will understand. I hope that i helped you out a little bit..

Erin - posted on 07/16/2010




I only have one so I may be out of line giving advise but I What I would do is try to set a little time everyday that's devoted to just you and your 2 yr old. Maybe during the newborns nap or maybe your husband could look after the newborn for a little while between feedings. I know sometimes all my 2 yr old wants is my undivided attention. Good luck.

Candace - posted on 07/13/2010




Definantly keep her involved!!! I found with my daughter who was 2 when our second daughter was born, was having books handy to read them to her, have a coloring book and crayons, she loves watching backyardigans so i would buy a movie of it, and if it got really bad i would put that in the dvd player while i nursed and that seemed to help (that was the last straw). Ultimately you only have a 3 week old baby and everyone needs time to adjust to the new baby. Good luck and I promise it wont be so bad in a couple of months! Keep Strong! I felt the same way in the beginning as well! :)

Nicole - posted on 07/12/2010




It just takes time to get into the new rountine. Make sure she is involved with the baby. And make sure she knows that you have to feed the baby. I had a very onery 2 yr old when her little sister was born and it took a few months but she got the hang of it. Good luck!

Rebecca - posted on 07/11/2010




Maybe get her involed, you could sit her next to you and give her own baby doll to feed at the same time. Talk to her lots about what a good girl she is at looking after her baby and how when she was a baby she used to feed too and how proud you are of her being such a clever big girl. Have a fun game that only comes out when you are b/feeding at your feet too that she can play when she gets bored. Hope you find something that works for you

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