Terrible Two's, Terrible Tantrums

Ashley - posted on 09/20/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a 2 year old daughter, who is always smiling and wanting to be playful and social. She lights up the room every time she enters and she knows how to put a smile on your face, even when your sad. Now that is the good. The bad is that if she doesn't get her way, even if it is something she knows she should not be doing, she throws the biggest fit ever. I have never seen a child freak out over little things like that before. She screams, yells "NO!", tells me to "hush", and worse of all. she hits me. I have tried Time Out's and I have taken things from her and sent her to bed, but nothing seems to work. I believe in giving spankings or a smack on the hand, but I think she is still a little too young to really put that on her. Does anyone have any suggestions on easier or more efficient ways to get her to behave or to tame the tantrums down a notch?

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Rebecca - posted on 09/20/2010

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My toddler throws tantrums all the time. What I do is just completely ignore her while she is throwing them and pay her attention as soon as she stops. If she's in a dangerous spot I move her say there there briefly without loking at her and continue what I'm doing. I don't get angry or involved and they seem to last on average 30secs. I imagine though the first few times you tried this she would escalate things to get your attention but hopefully settle down when she figures it doesn't work. Good luck

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Crystal - posted on 09/29/2010

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I agree with the above posts. Do your best to reward positive behavior and discourage unwanted behavior by ignoring it. My son is slowly learning that a whining voice dosnt get him anything and I even put myself on a time out. Kids need to understand that when they act like that they do not deserve the company of others. When he hits I don't hit back, I hold his hand down and/or tell him that he can give me a hug instead.


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EMMA - posted on 09/29/2010

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i know exactly what your going through my daughter is exactly the same one min she's as good as gold the next she's murder i think if i didn't have my husband i'd probaly would've had a nervous break down

Michelle - posted on 09/28/2010

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When my now 15 year old was 2 he learned how to throw tantrums at preschool. Once he had one at a mall because I removed him from a store where Dad was shopping because he wouldn't stop touching things after repeated corrections. He was kicking and screaming, and I simply took him to a bench and held him still until he stopped. Two little old ladies tried to tell me to "just let him go and see his dad", but my remark was that I wasn't going to reward the bad behavior. Another time my husband carried him kicking and screaming from a train show and we sat in the car until he calmed down. Neither time did we give in. I now have a 3 year old with Autism who throws crying fits and sometimes hitting when he doesn't get his way. Whenever possible I ignore him, or if he is hitting, hold him in my arms until he stops. If he is disrupting others, I remove him from the room until he stops and we can go back. In no way give in. I also don't believe in spanking, as it will encourage her to keep hitting you. My now 15 year old stopped having tantrums and has grown into a very polite and responsible young man, and my three year old is starting to have fewer and fewer, so have hope. With consistency she will learn that they do not work.

Rebecca - posted on 09/22/2010

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Yes and yes. Especially as they time them for the most public of places and throw their little bodies backwards onto the ground regardless of whether it's concrete or not. I just keep telling myself it's just what a toddler is meant to do and it's the only way she knows to express herself. But yes I do get overwhelmed - often! :)

Ashley - posted on 09/21/2010

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Thanks for the advice Rebecca. Im going to give it a shot and see how it works. Do you ever get so stressed from the tantrums you feel like you dont know what to do? I feel discouraged sometimes and I definitely dont want to feel like that.

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