TERRIBLE TWOS!!!

Ashley - posted on 04/17/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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MY DAUGHTER WILL BE 2 IN JULY AND SHE JUST DOES NOT LISTEN! I CAN TELL HER A BILLION TIMES 'NO' AND SHE GOES RIGHT BACK TO DOING WHATEVER IT IS SHE'S NOT SUPPOSE TO BE DOING. ALSO IF I ASK HER TO DO SOMETHING SHE'LL JUST LOOK AT ME LIKE I'M DUMB OR TELL ME 'NO'. THAT'S HER FAVORITE WORD BTW. I'M ABOUT TO BLOW MY TOP! POPPING HER DOESN'T WORK. THE CORNER DOESN'T WORK. I DUNNO WHAT ELSE TO DO! HELP!

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Mandy - posted on 04/18/2010

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I have a 2yo too and she doesn't have the option of telling me no. I use Love and Logic on her which is a parenting method in which you give your child simple choices to make. Are you going to put that toy away or do you want mommy to help you? Would you like to leave now from the park or in 5 minutes? Would you like wear this outfit or this cute dress? If they say no or don't give an answer then you choose for them. Asking questions helps them feel like they have some control in the matter. We do use time out when she hits her brother or sister.

Kelly - posted on 04/18/2010

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I just bought this book called "The Happiest Toddler on the Block: How to Eliminate Tantrums and Raise a Patient, Respectful, and Cooperative One- to Four-Year-Old:"
Has anyone read this? No one tells you the terrible 2's start at one!

Meghan - posted on 04/17/2010

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My daughter will also be two in July and we have the hit terrible twos as well. I have found it easier than I thought it would be (hopefully it continues that way). We put our daughter in time out but that is only reserved for the serious offenses such as hitting or throwing. Things that are absolutely not tolerated. She goes in for one minute and when she turns two it will be two minutes. When she gets up from time out we explain why she was put there and tell her we love her and give hugs and kisses. I've found it easier because I keep in the back of my mind that this is the time they start pushing boundaries. I also keep in my mind that it's just as hard for them as it is for you. The reason they call this time the terrible twos is because they are at a crossroads. They know what they want yet they can't quite communicate to you what it is they want so when you don't understand them, they get frustrated and throw a fit. I've found that when my daughter gets upset about something, I often tell her to calm down and she has stopped crying I tell her to show mommy what she wants. Most of the time that works because you are addressing the child's needs and they don't feel neglected. If she wants something she can't have (such as playing outside when it's raining) I usually tell her something along the lines of "its raining outside right now so we can't play outside but instead we can fingerpaint". We don't use the word no unless it's serious that way she knows no is not a friendly word. And when we use the word no she listens because she does not hear it often. Try offering alternatives instead of saying no. If your daughter wants a snack and you want her to clean up her room, instead of saying no right away when she asks for a snack try something like "once you help mommy clean your room up, we'll have a snack". I've found that works really well with my daughter because ultimately you're both getting something out of it. You need to make it fun. When we clean up her room, I sing a song and she always giggles but she thinks cleaning is fun because of that. Don't make it seem like a chore otherwise they won't be so apt to do it. And at this age, kids are big helpers. They want to help do everything so take advantage of that before they move into the next stage!

Mandy - posted on 04/17/2010

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Terrible twos, threes, fours ALL THE WAY THROUGH 18, lol. It doesnt get ANY easier. In fact, these are the easiest times. PERIOD. Mabey you shouldn't be saying no SO much. If that's her fave word, is it because she hears it constantly?? When she is doing something she shouldnt, try to say "Hey _______, look! There's a book (or whatever) I want to read to you." My boys love reading so they usually stop doing whatever it is, and pay attention to me. Try to get her attention away from what she shouldnt be doing, and on something else.

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