Terrible Twos

Jessica - posted on 08/30/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




we are going through terrible tows, and i dont know how to deal with it, my daughter throws fits, ALL the time, in public at home with whom ever, help me to keep my cool???


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User - posted on 09/26/2010




I swear, Im going through the exact same thing with my son!! He's almost 22months and has started throwing major tantrums, not listening to me, not wanting to eat meals, and is insanely bossy!! A good friend of mine recommended a fantastic course that helped her through this scary phase and Im starting immediately! Hopefully this will help me keep my insanity! Let me know if you'd like a link for the site :-)

Corinne - posted on 09/02/2010




I agree, distraction works wonders. Stay calm and focus on anything but the tantrum. If it gets too much, leave the room. My little boy hates it when I do that and shouts 'I be good Mummy!'. If my 4yr old does it, I make her leave the room for 5mins or until she's calmed down.

Dora - posted on 09/02/2010




Redirect redirect redirect. Whenever my 2yr old is doing something he is not supposed to or screaming, yelling, throwing a fit I just get him inolved in something else and then he forgets what he was doing. Sometimes when he is giving me an attitude I just simply start to talk to him about something I know he loves and that immediately turns things around in my favor. It works great. Give it a try and see if it works with your child. to be honest with you I tried the ignoring, time out, the yelling. None of it worked for us. I think he is still too young and is still learning.

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Yep, i resemble that as well. It's can be embarassing and there is no one fit all as these little people are armed with their own personalities. However, I am of the belief that there is no such thing. At this time, they are transitioning and don't know how to handle it. Mine is stubborn! There have been times when I've had to sit on the floor with him until he finished his howling session in public. He has hauled off and hit me and I've had to grab his hands and firmly tell him, I love you but I don't like it when you hit. I've walked away from him while he's stomping. He is afraid of the nose suction bulb so I use that as a threat...He acts up, I pull out it and go "do you want the business" he shakes his head no and clams right up. At the end of each "session" I do talk to him about his behavior; dont' know if he completely comprehends.

Jen - posted on 09/01/2010




my 22 month old son is going through this too. just today we took him out to a park on the way there he screamed kicked cried becasue he wanted to get out this pushchair. all i did was point out the window n say look calm down we am nearly here can you see the bus stop you can get out then, do you wana choose the bread for the duckies. he soon stopped. then when we got to the park the bread ran out he was having soo much fun he wanted to carry on so he kicked cried screamed winged all we did was stop now or your going into your pushcair and we wont go to the park so he stopped n we carried on walking but he winged so over here conkers am out so we played a game throw the conker til we reach the park he loved it he kept telling his dad up there so he could throw it in the air. of course everyone was staring like oh my gosh but you know i know every child i mean every child go though this so let them look and say things it doesnt bother me. yes i do get angry im thnking oh just behave but then you gotta stop n think he isnt doing it on purpose he dont undeerstand his got all the emotions and misunderstanding n doesnt know how to control them yet. they say past two thts why to introduce some kind of time out so they start working there anger out and know how to behave.

September - posted on 08/30/2010




The best thing to do is go out and invest in some books and educate yourself about the phase of life your toddler is going through. In fact it's not terrible at all! It's a developmental stage that all toddlers go through. I'm reading a book called Parenting with Love and Logic right now and it's a great read! Our son is 22 months and is in this same phase. I hate the phrase "terrible two's" personally! Good luck and best wishes!

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