the thought of potty training my son terrifys me

Stacy - posted on 07/24/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




Okay my son will be 2 on august 8th and the thought of potty training him terrifys me and idk or i don't have anyone to help me his dad don't want to try and I'm trying but I'm also scared like what do I do like first thing in the morning when I get up put him on his potty and then like every half hour?? IDK what I'm doing here.....


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Karen - posted on 08/03/2010




I was scared too! I read that chapter in every toddler book a few times before we started.

I waited till my 2 yr old was telling/signaling me she was peeing or had to pee. She actually had interest in the porta potty and would sit on it periodically for 5months before she was ready to actually train. Once we trained, it only took 2-3 days for us. I covered the floor with blankets and towels on a rainy day, and put the little porta potty in the middle of the living room. There was lots of cheering and hugging and kissing for each success. She got CapriSun's for a prize and the fluids kept her peeing all day. She got LOTS of practice--she also got to put a sticker on a picture (some random picture of a kitty cat on a toilet) and ended up with 20 stickers by the end of the day!

Poop was harder and she reverted to diapers for pooping for a while (wearing panties the rest of the day), but we tackled that another time. At 2yr, it is still hard to pull up/down pants and wipe alone, so when she got older and more practiced, we had prizes again for doing it all by herself--with stickers and a single fruit snack as a special prize (so the individual serving of fruit snax lasted a day or two).

We read a lot of potty/toilet books, let her watch us use the potty, and talk a lot about feeling the pee-pee/poo-poo in our body. We wave and say bye-bye when flushing the toilet.

Also make sure it is not a stressful time of mommy/daddy's lives b/c you have to keep your cool when the need strikes at inopportune times. We also kept a porta potty in the car for errands and she loved using public potties too...and the bushes...

Erica - posted on 08/02/2010




Make a game out of it..when my son was potty training way back when, I'd throw cheerios in the toilet and tell him for everyone he "sank" with hs pooty he got an m&m. We had potty parties where we'd sit in the bathroom on the toilet and sing and play games. No matter if he went pee or not I always gave him a reward just for trying and it seemed to make him want to go more. Try buying him a potty and letting him just sit around in it. Not in the bathrrom,but wherever he feels comfortable with it and then maybe slowly try to get him to sit in without a diaper and eventually move t closer to the bathroom. Whatever you don't push him. If you try to force hm to go in the toilet it's just going to make him want to do it even less. Potty training should feel like a fun activity not a punishment

Atlee75 - posted on 08/02/2010




Yes, get the Elmo potty time video, and I would not do anything, just take him to the bathroom when you go, but you really don't have to "do" anything. You will know when the time is right. The best thing you can do is relax. It will happen and believe me when I say you will know it.

Robin - posted on 07/31/2010




My son is 21/2 and we started potty training a few months ago. I just started by letting him run around without clothes on, and brought him to the potty about every 45 minutes or so. There were accidents, but with stickers to play with while he sat on his potty, about within a few weeks he knew to pee in his potty. I'm still working on the pooping part, and started "big boy pants" :)
I went slow, but if he is really resistant, back off and try again in a couple of weeks. I always like to remember that they don't go to college in diapers :)
I hope this helps, and happy birthday to your son!

Terri - posted on 07/27/2010




All my 3 children (2 boys and 1 girl) werent toilet trained until between 3 years and 2 months and 3 years and 4 months. I never rushed it, but waited until they were capable of understanding and grasping the concept of going to the potty. In the end I ended up letting them run around naked (they were all summer babies so this worked out well lol) because they were stubborn and wouldnt use it. They didnt like the wee running down their legs so voluntarily used the potty. Worked everytime. But I see a lot of people rushing to try and toilet train kids before they are ready and I think you just end up stressing yourself and the child. My other daughter will be 2 in december but I dont plan on trying to train her until about 2 and a half, see how she goes but will probably be at 3 years again.

The key is not to stress over it, bribe a little if you have too and look for signs as to when your boy is ready. If he doesnt look like he is interested dont push it. Good luck :)

Allie - posted on 07/26/2010




My son told me he was ready.... I wouldn't have started him when I did had he not told me. If you're not ready, he's probably not. I'd start reading some potty books with him. But Erin's right, he's still young.

Erin - posted on 07/25/2010




My son is 2 and 1/2 and is not yet potty trained I haven't pushed it to much. I have a potty for him and explained what it's for. I read him potty books and he has an elmo potty dvd. When he talks about poop I put him on, he has not yet gone on the potty. I think one of the most important thing about potty training is to be patient and encoraging. At any rate he may still be kind of young, I would introduce it but not expect to much. I think the average age for boys to be potty trained is about 3.

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