throwing fits

Kourtnie - posted on 12/11/2008 ( 8 moms have responded )




my sons about 18 months now and when he throws a fit he goes all out. i dont kno if its normal im an 18 year old mom and im confused how to handle it. he gets mad and tries to hit even if you tell him no he just does it again. then he will throw himself on the floor and start kicking and screaming and trying to slam his own head into walls and stuff. i dont understand it. can anybody help me?


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My 2 year old is definitely spirited too. When he started with the biting I would watch him very closely and when he went to bite I'd stop him and tell him that we kiss we don't bite. When he goes to hit I tell him that people are for hugging not hitting. When he starts to push my limits and acts as though he just can't behave we have a positive time out where we sit quietly with his Mr Dog and takes a few deep breaths until he feels happier and in control (we also do the punitive time out when he is really misbehaving). He used to get very frustrated around 18 months and I taught him the sign for help so he could ask for help when he couldn't do something and this really helped him

Deb - posted on 12/14/2008




It's not you mom, it's just the age. I know it must be frustrating, but this too will pass. My son would thrown up on purpose if he did not get what he wanted. I had puke everywhere alot of the time. It does get better. :) You will smile again soon.

Christina - posted on 12/14/2008




I went for a long time telling myself that tantrums are normal for kids that age, but once my daughter hit 2yrs old I started doing some reading on "spirited" kids. Some kids tend to be more intense than others, it's a temprament thing, and it is definately the case with my daughter. I didn't want to overreact or to label my kid as difficult, but doing some reading on the subject didn't hurt. She was a biter too. . . I would break down in tears sometimes because I couldn't believe my sweet little baby was turning into such a monster! Focusing on their good behavior is very important (for them and for you). Those sweet moments when they spontaneously give you a hug or kiss can help you remember that it is not all bad!

Nancy - posted on 12/13/2008




when my son misbehaves I put him in his high chair in time out and explain why he is in time out and then use the minute per age rule he is 3 almost so he gets about 21/2min and then I explain to him that he has to be good or he will be back in time out and I tell him to tell me his is sorry and that he understands and then I hug and kiss him and tell him I love him and that works.

Melissa - posted on 12/12/2008




My 20 month old son does the same. I try time out but usually he calms down, gets out of time out and goes back to hitting or whatever it was he was doing before. Most of the time I ignore him and let him have his fit (as long as he's not going to hurt himself, because sometimes he'll fling his whole body into it). I just tell myself this too shall pass! I am looking forward to when we can communicate a little better so he doesn't get so frustrated and I can explain to him why he's being punished.

Debbie - posted on 12/12/2008




My ds is 20 months and does exactly the same! As soon as you say no or ask him to wait for something he throws himself down and kicks ans rolls about. It is horrible, my older son was never like it and I do find it hard to ignore but I know thats the best answer.

good luck xx

Ginger - posted on 12/11/2008




my daughter who is 20 months is the same way.. not fun at all.. but alls I do is let her have her fit.. when she is done she will get up and ask again for what ever it was when I say no.. she will do it again.. after that I ask if she is done she usually nods yes then I tell her to go and play.. thats all I have to do by that time she has forgotten what she was throwing a fit at.. he will eventually outgrow it.. my son at 3 1/2 did the same and hasnt had one in a long time

Tricia - posted on 12/11/2008





I understand your pain. Ihave a 2 1/2 yr old son and 1 1/2 yr old daughter. My son used to throw fits as well. It's his way of testing your patience and see if he's going to get what he wants. I use time out for my son. I give him a warning then time out. I set a timer and when his 2 min. is up I tell him why I put him in time out and explain that if it happens again he will be put in time out again. It takes alot of patience to make them stay in time out but now he knows if I tell him time out he knows where he is supposed to go and he knows that I will not talk to him or look at him while he's in time out. I actually started time out with him when he was about 12 months old. Just make sure when the time out is over to tell him why you put him there and if they behavior happens again he's going to be put back there and then give kisses and hugs. If you have any other questions let me know, I'll be happy to help.

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