Tips to help toddler stay in "her" room?

Carla - posted on 11/11/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I have a 2.5 girl who is not sleeping in her own "big girl room." She slept in her crib as a baby until she learned how to walk, then climb. So she climbed out the crib. We converted her be to the toddler bed, then she still came in my husband and I's room. We have tried a gate and she's climbed over that too! Should I lock her in her room and make her sleep in there or should I lock our bedroom door? Help!!! I need some advice! One sexless mom to another!

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Mallori - posted on 11/14/2009

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We just recently moved our son into his "big kid" bed. He is 18 months old. I got him to stay in bed by sitting with him and reading him two books and singing two songs to cslm him down, then I kiss him goodnight, tuck him in and leave the room. We keep his door closed, but we have the baby monitor in the room. If he gets out of bed we take him straight back, say "I love you" and leave the room, no matter how many times it takes. I have heard that if you get your child used to falling asleep with you, it is harder for them to stay asleep when you are not there. You just need to be firm and gentle and explain to them that it is bed time. He was sleeping in his own bed through the night within 2 nights. It worked like a charm.

Nessa - posted on 11/14/2009

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The " Nanny Technique" as Shauna called it does work and there definitely needs to be a routine at bedtime. Kids need things to be predictable. Have you tried using a reward chart? Did that last year with 2.5 yr old son and 3.5 yr old daughter. They both loved it and did really well. I included the steps of the bedtime routine into the chart so they were excited about finishing each bit and this also reinforced the routine for them as they would start to tell me what they had to do next. There was an extra sticker for staying in their own bed. They got up every morning excited about getting to pick out a sticker for staying in own rooms. At end of week got a treat in toy shop once they filled their chart with stickers. It worked...we have a beautiful ten month old daughter to prove it!!!! By the way, don't think I'd go with the gate idea but each to their own. Sometimes the kids just need a cuddle if they have a bad dream or might need to go for a wee. Now that they are used to being in their own beds they'll just go back to their own rooms after a trip to the toilet. Like Debanjana says...loadsa cuddles and reassurance too.

Shauna - posted on 11/12/2009

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I used the nanny tech. where you every night at the same time start the bedtime rutine. I start at 7pm with a bath, then snack and story, then up to brush teeth. After that we give kisses and tuck him in. If he gets out, I put him back in bed and say,it's bed time, stay in your bed. The next time he gets out, I put him back in and say nothing at all, and do that over and over, till he falls asleep. It took two

nites of doing that, me sitting on the floor outside his room tired and not wanting to follow threw, but now he just walks in and falls asleep with little effort. He is also two and a half. I still gate him in, but like your little one he climbs over so I put the gate up just high enough that he can't climb over and low enough that he can't wezel under...Good luck, hope I been helpful!!

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Becky - posted on 11/16/2009

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Ah! I remember these times! We just had to be consistent about putting our son back into his bed! This took a few nights of putting him back into his bed...over and over..again. Once he saw that he was going to have to stay in his own room...he gave in and went off to sleep!

Anita - posted on 11/16/2009

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I believe in telling her it's o.k. to come into our room if you need me. Have a pallet, sleeping bag, tent,etc. next to your bed. That is her special place. Tell her to lay on her pallet. She'll realize that there's nothing she's missing and soon will stop coming.
P.S. Right after she goes to bed is a great place to have sex!
Good luck!

Debanjana - posted on 11/12/2009

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Keep taking her back. Get in bed with her, cuddle her till she falls asleep, then come back. Slowly the frequency of her coming will reduce. I tried this with my son and it helped. All the best.

Debanjana - posted on 11/12/2009

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Keep taking her back. Get in bed with her, cuddle her till she falls asleep, then come back. Slowly the frequency of her coming will reduce. I tried this with my son and it helped. All the best.

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