Toddler Beds

Jessica - posted on 07/31/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




I just moved, and my living arrangments have changed, and so I am trying to keep Matthew, who is turning 3 on September 19th, in his toddler bed. Where I used to live, I put him in his room, and put one of those covers over the door handle, preventing him from opening his door. My struggle is keeping him in his bed at night. We are now at a place where I can't use those covers, and he keeps getting out of bed at night. I have tried time out, strict bedtime routine, baths before bed, taking his blanket away if he gets out of bed, I mean I've tried everything, and I just can't keep him in bed! What can I do? He's ready, because he asks to sleep in his toddler bed at night, but he doesn't stay in it... and I don't have the energy to keep going through the same up and down every night until 11 PM or so when I have to work the next day!

Any suggestions?


Heather - posted on 07/31/2009




Do you ever watch Supernanny? She has a great technique where you sit in the room with him on the floor but facing away from him. You don't look at him or talk to him at all. As soon as he gets out of the bed, simply pick him up and set him back into bed. Do not talk to him at all! Do not reward him with any other form of attention. It might take his getting up 100 times the first night, but eventually he will tire of it and go to sleep. Keep doing this each night and it should rapidly get less until he just goes to sleep right away. With my daughter, it only took three nights.


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Can you reverse the door knob so the lock is on the outside? There's usually just a couple of screws that you can remove to reverse the entire handle set. I'm not sure how you'd feel about this. We don't lock our son in at night, but we do for occasional timeouts. For nighttime wandering, we allow him to come into our room and sleep on the floor next to the bed. I keep a special blanket at the end of our bed just for him to use as his "bed" on the floor. I'd rather have him in his bed, but this has been a compromise to at least keep him out of our bed.

Jennifer - posted on 08/05/2009




I put my son in a toddler bed on his 2nd birthday and shortly after he was in the bad habit of coming in my room to crawl in with me...I had to break the habit so....took me a few weeks, and ALOT of energy and lost sleep....BUT it worked. As soon as he came in the room I would get up and walk him back to his bed....over and over again...and hew would cry, but I kept doing it....didnt get mad at him, just say "sorry son, you need to sleep in your bed, good night i love you" eventually he gave up trying because he knew it wouldnt work.

I did use a baby gate but it turned out to be a threat rather then anything else lol. He HATED the gate, but if he continued to argue with me before bed on where he would sleep, I'd start to put it up and he would say "no no no" and crawl in his

Sharame - posted on 08/03/2009




At the moment I have a similar issues. The way our house is set up we have a short hallway with my sons door on one end and ours on the other. We like to leave them open so when he walks up usaully around 9 or so he can come to us. Which he falls back asleep between my boyfriend and i for another hour or so. But if i leave his door open right when i put him to bed he'll come out in a few minutes. So i try a routine with stories popping in a cd, and closing the door all the way. Then opening it a few hours later after he's fallen asleep. This has cut down on a ton of night time crying. But i also notice that sometime without crying he gets out of bed grabs his pillow and blanket and falls asleep on the floor right by the door. So when i go to open the door i place him back in bed which is usually where he stays till morning. I would suggest one baby gate if not two, our boy is a climber and we need two. If you've already put him to bed make sure he can't see you if he's watching you'll never want to lay down where he can't see you for sure. I try to stay out of his line of slight during naps. Also maybe besides the gates a dark blanket pined to the doorway to cut out light from the hallway or other rooms.

Tammy - posted on 08/03/2009




glad im not the only mommy not getting a good nights sleep with getting a toddler to stay in his bed...The baby gate in the doorway sounds like that might be worth a shot!

Debbie - posted on 08/02/2009




A technique I have used and found quite good, is to do the same bedtime routine each night, eg 3 stories and then hugs and kisses with mummy and daddy, and then I sing a song to her to settle her down (lights out).
Then I say, I have to go and I'll be back in a minute. I go out for about 30 sec and then go back and sit on the floor with her and rub her back for about 30 sec and then say, I be back in 1 min, and then leave for 1 min and then go back and and do the above and just continue like that increasing the time each time.
Usually doesn't take long for her to go to sleep and eventually you should be able to stop this all together.
Hope this helps

Lori - posted on 08/01/2009




I am going through the same thing with my 2 1/2 year old. I am doing the suggestion that Heather made. It has worked, but has taken up to 45 minutes to keep him there. Last night took 1 1/2 hours, but, I think a lot of it had to do with being frustrated and giving him the attention he was looking for. Tonight was a lot better - only took 30 minutes. Hoping it continues to get better. Good luck!

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Try putting a baby gate in front of the door,unless you think he can climb over. We put my daughter in a toddler bed at 20 months because she was climbing out of her crib. She can't quite turn the door knob all the way to open the door so she stays in her room, but it only took about 3 nights for her to go in and lie down and go to sleep on her own without trying to wander around the house. I read that some people use a baby gate in front of the door to keep their kids in. Hope it helps!

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