Toddler refuses to sleep in her own bed

Elina - posted on 12/16/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My little girl was recently sick and I made the mistake of letting her sleep in our bed so that it was easy for me to check her tempereture. Now she refuses to go back to her bed.

We moved her bed in our bedroom so that she gets used it again slowly and she is quite happy to go in, sit and relax.

However when it is type so sleep she refuses to lie down and she starts crying hysterically.



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Christy - posted on 12/16/2009




i don't know if this will help since my daughter was transitioning out of a crib into a big kid bed when i did this but i'll try to give you some ideas. my daughter was the kind of baby that not only had to sleep in bed with her dad and me but refused to fall asleep without me right beside her. when she got bed instead of a crib i decided that enough was enough and i was taking my bed back lol.

i started out lying on the floor right beside her bed close enough to cuddle her until she fell asleep. i did this for 2 weeks, then progressively moved closer to the door every week after that until i didn't have to sleep in her room at all anymore. i also keep the door to her room shut until her dad and i go to sleep, then i open her door a bit, close the bathroom door, put a gate up at our stairs and leave my bedroom door open a bit. that way if she feels like she needs us in the middle of the night she can come get us. i know that last bit isn't exactly ideal but she does sleep by herself till 6 am and only sleeps with us till she gets up for the day at 8:30 am.

also, make sure you have a routine in place and make sure you're firm on making her stay in her room. my daughter know that when i take her up for bed, she gets 4 lullabies and then it's time to sleep. if she's still awake when the lullabies are done, i simply tell her goodnight, i love and it's time for mommy to go now. she doesn't cry about it most of the time and on the nights that she does it's only a few minutes. her dad literally can't put her to bed though because she knows that he will let her get up or that he won't leave if she cries.

i hope my advice helps, good luck!

Katherine - posted on 12/16/2009




My son slept with me ever since he was an infant. He is almost 2 now. I had his bed pushed up next to mine for the longest time. That helped a lot. I then took his bed and moved it further away from mine. he didn't like it at first but its something he is getting used to. Another thing that you have to do that can be hard, is you have to be very serious with them. They need to know that they are going to sleep in their own bed. If you give into them when they cry then they know that's all they need to do to be able to sleep in bed with you. Its hard to see them cry, but if you are there with them then you can monitor them and make sure they are OK. Also it can help if you put something in bed with them that smells like you. Like a blanket, a pillow case, or a pillow. Whatever you are comfortable with. That might help to comfort her. Be willing to part with whatever it is though, chances could be that they take to it, as a form of comfort, similar to when a child sucks their thumb. I hope this helps. Let me know. :)

Ashley - posted on 12/16/2009




my 2 year old is the same way we got her to sleep in her room but thn she got sick n now is really hard to get her to sleep n stay there .. if u find out let me know

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