Toddler screaming

Charlotte - posted on 01/28/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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ahhh!!! It is driving me crazy!! He screams when he is frustrated and can't communicate his wants, doesn't get what he wants, or wants attention (instead of calling for mama or dada). We used to ignore the screaming until we had to move in with some friends of ours. Now it is a big problem because it doesn't just affect us..it affects those we live with who have limited patience with it because he is not their child. Unforunately we have to live in this situation right now. I don't want to get angry with him because I don't want him to get that attention for it. I am trying to tell him to use his words and he rarely does because screaming is easier. And unforuntely living with others we feel pushed into giving him what he wants to ease the screaming and the glares we get from our friends who hopefully will continue to be our friends through these terrible twos. We are contributing to rent..but still..small place..lots of people. What else can I do to try to help ease the screaming except for giving in or ignoring it? I've tried distratction as well but it only works about half the time. Help!!!

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Charlotte - posted on 01/29/2010

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they have a 12 month old daughter and she's starting to pick up on some of my son's habits and i think they blame him for it when he started his around her age. they are growing short with him. he woke up their daughter last night :-( i feel badly but i'm gonna have to let him scream it out.

Carolee - posted on 01/29/2010

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You need to talk to your friends. Let them know that, when they have kids, they will go through the exact same thing, and they need to get used to it and help if they can (but ask it nicely). Let them know that you ABSOLUTELY cannot give into your son when he screams. It will take a while, they need to be prepared for that, but it will stop when he realizes that you have stopped giving into him when he screams. It's an unfortunate situation, but there's really nothing else you can do... unless you want him to keep screaming and giving in to him so he does it more. Good luck...

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