Toddlers and the F-word

Jade - posted on 11/24/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




My 18month old son is rapidly picking words up and has overheard the 'F-word' and now won't stop saying it. First we just tried to ignore him when he said it. Then I just began telling him off everytime with a stern voice. He's stopped saying it at my mums house becasuse my dad told him off (though when my dad says no thats the end of it!). But my partner and i are having a bit of trouble. He seems to think its a game everytime we react. Any clues as to what to do or what has worked??


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Valerie - posted on 11/29/2009




i would matter-of-factly say truck when he says the word...we say truck and walk away or try to ignore...he has gotten the wrong message...or practice being stern like hard to not expose your child to bad language as he will keep picking it up and it can cause problems for him....

Jocelyn - posted on 11/27/2009




My daughter has just picked up that wonderful word too. I guess the thing to remember is that hopefully it's just a phase they are going through and eventually they won't say it anymore (while at least till they are teenagers So just try and ignore it and eventually they will move on to something else. Good Luck...

Alicia - posted on 11/26/2009




I dont remember how young my son was when I started.. but I would tell him to slap his own mouth... because I wouldnt ever do it to him, but we have a thing now where if ANYONE says a naughty word you slap your mouth.... and hes learned what the naughty words are and he likes telling us to slap our mouths so much that its got him to realize what to not say..and he hates slapping his own mouth... so he dont say it anymore, and after one time of telling him to slap his mouth if he does say it, he quits... but WOW he picks it up fast if I slip! lol.

Candice - posted on 11/25/2009




my 18 mo old picked up "shut up" from her dad's house. She gets a warning "mummy doesn't like that word and i don't want to hear it and if you say it again you will sit by yourself".you'd be surprised how much they understand of what you tell them at this age. if it happens again, she gets to sit by herself for a few minutes. i explain to her again when i come back, and then drop the issue...until it happens again. Usually takes a few days to get her to stop saying it. unfortunately, she sees her dad again and it comes back.

I have also tried replacing it with "shhh" telling her she could say that instead...but recently that hasn't worked, so we moved to the other method.

Jenna - posted on 11/25/2009




Best thing you can do is try to ignore it and don't let him see any reaction from you. I f thres no reaction, he should pretty soon give it up and try something else. good luck

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I have decided that I won't be able to control what others say around my daughter all of the time so have started teaching her that there are certain words that she is not allowed to say, like swear words. She does it sometimes just to get a reaction out of me and I react by telling her that that word is not for her to say (in my very stern voice) and that it is a bad word not for girls. She usually says it a few more times to see what I will do, so I repeat the above and then if she keeps saying it I just ignore her and distract her with something else. You have to apparently repeat yourself a few hundred times when you're trying to teach your toddler something new, so just keep trying to get him to understand why he shouldn't say those words and don't react too much, he'll eventually stop... perseverance is the key here :)

Nikki - posted on 11/24/2009




You can try to change the word, and when that fails, ignore it. If he sees it gets a reaction he will keep doing it. And if he still says it (like my son did thanks to dad's poker nights, LOL) After I gave up, he went to visit my parents. He got a "clean mouth" from grandma courtesy of old fashioned drop of dish soap on the tongue and has never said it again...Good luck!

Alicia - posted on 11/24/2009




maybe try correcting the word... when my neice says it i go oh you want a fork (alot of the time when she says it she is trying to say fork) but try changing it by saying oh you want a truck and handing him a toy truck or duck with a bath duck.... hope that helps

Trisha - posted on 11/24/2009




my son did the same thing around that age. just try to ignore it. or when he says it try to change the take some time and he will get bored and forget..might take a few wks! good luck!

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