trouble getting toddler to bed

Erin - posted on 03/22/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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we have been in our new house house since 28th jan and my 21 mth old knows how to open the doors, so when she gets put to bed she constantly keep walking out of her room and coming and saying hi to me knowing that she is going to be put straight back to bed. she has a set bedtime which is 7pm everynight (depending how good im going with the routine on my own) and she doesnt go to sleep till 9pm. then later on in the night or early morning she will wake up and come into my bedroom, and because i am too busy feeding my 6mth i usually leave her in the bed. some nights she will fall asleep straight away and other nights she will be awake from 2am until 4am and some other nights i have tried putting her to bed again but she will once again come in and out and this starts from 1am and goes on until 4 am unless she gets a bottle of milk (like one her 6mth brother has, which she stopped having at 13 mths) or she will go to sleep if she has two dummies.
i really need my bed and my sleep back and would like to get rid of the dummy and the bottle again but its alot in one go
Please if you have suggestions i would love to hear them
thanks
Erin

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Erin - posted on 03/22/2011

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Thank you for your replay
i did think of using the stair gate rail, i just wasnt sure if it would work and if it was a good idea but you never know unless you try i guess.
i definitely dont want her to be getting onto the habit of sleeping in my bed coz i have gone 21 mths with her sleeping in her own bed and i dont want to begin now. the past few nights i have brought in her fold out couch and put her to sleep on the floor but she still needs to be in her own bed cause she is a big girl now.

i think your right i need to be alot stricter and more consistent, i give in too easily because i dont have the patience cause im am really tired, but i think the more i am consistent the quicker i can get her back into her own bed, just wishing it was easier

Louise - posted on 03/22/2011

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You need to be stricter with her. If she was my child I would put a stair gate on her bedroom door to keep her contained to one room. It is then easier for you to put her back to bed and not give in and take her to yours or let her stay in yours. If the dummy is giving her some comfort at night let her keep it. As part of your routine tell her that this is where she sleeps as a big girl and that mummy will be very pleased if she stays in here. If she does get up she can only get as far as the door. Pick her up and put her back to bed and tell her again this is your room now go to sleep. let her moan and believe me she will for the first and probably the second night. Do not crumble and let her into your bed because co sleeping is a really hard habbit to break. On the third night you should see a marked improvement with her sleeping pattern.

Another thing to look at is her day time nap do not let her sleep for longer than an hour and a half as this time will have an impact on her night time sleep.

A lot of this is learning to control situations, she has realised that she can control where she sleeps and if she sleeps by crying or just walking straight in to your room. You have to regain control and dictate to her when she sleeps and where.

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