troubled 4yr old

Jenny - posted on 04/24/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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dose anyone have suggestion bout what to do ... my 4yr old keeps telling me he hates been at home and dosn't love me or his daddy wants to be with his nanna?

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Candice - posted on 04/24/2009

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as we got older she added "if you still hate me when you're 30, get therapy". lol

when i turned 30 i appologized to her and told her that everything she ever did suddenly made sense. :)

Crystal - posted on 04/24/2009

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lol ya... i've seen my mom do that when my brother and sister were little... i've done it to my daughter to...

Candice - posted on 04/24/2009

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whenever i told my mom i hated her or didn't love her as a child, she would say "that's ok because i love you anyway". now THAT stops a kid in their tracks. lol

Crystal - posted on 04/24/2009

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my daughter does the same thing from time to time... usually when she's gotten in trouble for something... at one point she told me that she wants to live with her dad and i asked her why. she told me that daddy lets her do whatever she wants. i talked to him about it and told him that he has to start putting his foot down with her. he started to and now she only likes going over there from time to time... i also had to have a similar talk with my mom and my mom stopped letting her get away with a lot... my daughter still wants to go see her grandma and auntie lots but she always says right after that she loves me too and just wants to go see auntie..



once when she told me that she didn't love me i told her that i loved her and that hurt my feelings. she said sorry and that she still loves me...



i suggest talk to his nanna and let him know that you still love him and that it hurts your feelings when he says he doesn't love you. remember chances are that it's just because he's 4 and will grow out of it..



good luck

Candice - posted on 04/24/2009

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does he get treated differently at nanna's? does he have different (more leniant rules) there? that would explain the preference. if that is the case you could ask nanna to follow the same rules you have, or simply explain to him that the rules in your house are different and when he is there he has to follow those rules.



try not to be hurt by it. kids at that age do that when they don't get what they want.

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