Two and a terrible hitter..

Kyha - posted on 06/20/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son just turned two in May and he hits kicks like no other. It's very frusterating and a hard thing to break! If he doesn't stop he'll get kicked out of day care. He's just mean and it breaks my heart!! I know its just a stage but is there anything I can do to break him of it rather than just let it pass?

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Heather - posted on 06/26/2009

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I explained to my son that if he hit someone that it really hurt. Then I explained that he would not like it if he got hurt. Then I explained that if he hurt someone his tongue was going to hurt. I was trying to teach him that each action has a consequence. Once he realized that hitting had unpleasant consequences it stopped almost immediately. I hope this helped. Good luck.

Kyha - posted on 06/22/2009

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and as for the hot sauce heather..

i'm glad that worked great for you but the part i don't understand is the relationship with hitting.

you know what i mean?

i could see using that with thumb sucking and biting.

i'd be MORE THAN WILLING to try the method if i understood it a little bit more.

would you be willing to explain?

Kyha - posted on 06/22/2009

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thanks so much for the advice..

i have a friend who is a mom of 7 and she has given me alot of ideas..such as logic

example: when he hits respond with: "do you want people to be mean to you? cuz if you're mean to you they'll be mean back"

tried it..BUT, when your kid is a smart butt and responds with yes its a little difficult to keep on trying that method haha!!

Heather - posted on 06/20/2009

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I know this may sound harsh but try hot sauce.1 drop on the tongue (I would dap the worst of the drop into a paper towel) leaves an impression. Within 2 weeks my son was finished hitting. I also gave milk to drink after a minute or so to help the burning. I will admit I didn't use this until my son was almost 3. You have to know when he is understanding you and just choosing to ignore you. This got my son's attention better than anything else I tried. Good Luck with whatever you try!

Evie - posted on 06/20/2009

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I think the terrible two's can make or break the whole deal - I'm a firm believer in leading the way forth, meaning, do not respond in any other way rather than calm (easier said than done, particularly if your in a rush) and when you get a breather keep your mood upbeat and happy, laugh allot around him, even if you don't feel much like it, singing is a good demonstration of happy attitudes. Also if you feel you are in rush allot of the time (most mum’s are) try to slow things down and build in time. A final tip would be to try and see most stuff from his point of view and show him that you notice his difficulties, also easier said than done when he is kicking you in the face or pulling your hair. Its not easy!!

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