using utensils

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my son is a year old and still wants to eat with his fingers. how do i teach him to use a fork or spoon without him chocking on it?


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Lea - posted on 04/21/2010




It was the opposite with my son. He always wanted to do what he saw grownups doing before he could physically do it so he would scream and demand regular forks and spoons and then scream when he couldn't do it. I wouldn't try to force him to use them. Just make a show of using them yourself and he should become interested all on his own. He should start trying to imitate everything you do at this age.

Susan - posted on 04/21/2010




My daughter is 20 months and she gets a fork with her meals, but tends to hold it in one hand and eat with the other hand. If I remind her to use her fork, she'll try to stab a piece of food, but if she doesn't get it quickly, she'll just use her hand. I think part of the problem is that she isn't strong enough and the fork isn't sharp enough to stab say a piece of meat so she gives up. She has gotten pretty good about eating yogurt or applesauce with a spoon, although the last time she did decide to try to eat it with her hands. Anyway, at one year old, you really shouldn't expect your son to be using utensils, not properly anyway. You can give them to him so he gets used to them, but it will be a while before he's really good with them.

Jennifer - posted on 04/21/2010




Give him time he will get it eventually. Just offer them to him even if its just to play with so he gets the hang of using them. Also help him with it if he allows you to help.

Debra - posted on 04/21/2010




my 14 month old just plays with her utensils (she now gets given metal teaspoons and the little metal forks) . She eats with her hands or by me feeding her. They learn by watching others, so eat in front of him and he will pick it up in his own time something I must do myself :P

Rachelle - posted on 04/20/2010




I always use to get the plastic soup spoons, and have them eat peas with mashed potatoes if they new how to hold the spoon. Until then, you will have to feed him his food if you think he is going to be prone to choking, or even if you feel he will feed himself too fast and cause himself to choke, then feed him yourself. I fed all of my children until I was sure they could feed themselves without choking on the food. They use to stuff their mouths with so much food, I had to take their food away, and they would cry and spit their food out of their mouths while pouting in their highchair. You won't enjoy doing that if you don't have patience, or I would just hold the spoon in our hands and help him use it correctly without putting too much food on the plate. If you need to give him something quick to subside his hunger, give him finger foods, like nuggets, crackers, or fruit.

Theresa - posted on 04/20/2010




I think you're at the right time to start introducing a spoon or fork. If you buy the "bigger" spoons and forks made for learning babies/toddlers, those are the best. My twins, who are almost 2 and are learning at roughly the same pace, have been given a spoon or fork since they were 1 and they've almost completely got the idea. They still like to try to use their fingers with veggies or things, but I remind them that they need to use their fork or spoon and they do. When they first started, I would sit with them and "help" them use their utensils to show them what the purpose of the spoon vs fork works. Just make sure whatever way you choose, you stay consistent. That's how they'll learn. good luck!!

Samantha - posted on 04/20/2010




my son is 18 months and TRIES to use a spoon and fork, but most of the time more ends up on the floor than in his mouth!! They master these things on their own time!! Dont get to stressed out about it!!

Teri - posted on 04/19/2010




I think this is totally normal -- keep in mind that using th efingers is all about fine motor development and eating is a great use of the hands. I always gave my kids forks and spoons with meals, wehterh they used them or not. they'd play, make a mess, etc. but one day they actually start using them. My son who is almost 4 will still use his hands when he just wants to shovel food in. I do'nt think you can stop this, enjoy it and know it's all learning.

September - posted on 04/19/2010




Offer a spoon or folk with every meal. If he is gagging himself he will learn really fast not to do that. I think that providing him with every opportunity to practice using utensils will teach him how. Our son is 17 months and is offered a spoon or folk with every meal. He does still tend to use his fingers when eating some foods such as mac and cheese or fresh steamed veggies. However I have noticed recently that he prefers the utensils. Just keep trying; he'll get there soon enough :) Best wishes!

Louise - posted on 04/19/2010




My daughter is nearly 18 months and she uses her hands for every meal. She does like to hold a spoon herself and occasionaly puts it in her mouth but usually with nothing on it. At 1 years old you have plenty of time to teach him how a spoon works. He will do it when he is ready.

Chantelle - posted on 04/19/2010




My son is 20 months old and he still uses his hands. But he does use the fork sometimes too. You just got to help him hold the fork and spoon the right way, and help him out with scooping the food and putting it into his mouth the right way..Just keep helping him out when he eats and he eventually,and soon enough catch on and start doing it himself.

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It takes awhile but all of a sudden they catch on. Just have the utensils there when he is eating and when he is ready he will start using them. My son mastered the fork long before the spoon.

Stevie - posted on 04/19/2010




my 17 month old still uses his hands im trying to just lay forks and stuff there for him or give it to him but he still prefers his hands your ganna be right there with him if you see him trying to gag himself with them pull his hand and utensil out of his mouth and tell him no you wont tollerate that my son will try to do that sometimes with his hand and ill pull his hand out and smack his hand and tell him no no hands in your mouth until you stop and he gets it he is hard headed with it cuz he will keep trying but he stops after a few times of saying and smacking his hand im thinking of changing his to big spoons and forks i dont wonder if he doesn like not getting more on his like he can with his hands hope ive helped some i dont really know what to do other than that either

Ashley - posted on 04/19/2010




My son is 15months old, and still eats with his hands. He attempts to feed himself with utensils, but hasn't quite mastered it yet. He tried to use a spoon, but doesn't get a whole lot on it, or drops it before he gets it to his mouth, so then he'll start using his hands. They will master it with time. Just keep trying! Good luck!

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