wanting another baby

Shae - posted on 12/28/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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im 20 yrs old and my son will be two in just a few months and i want another baby. me and my boyfriend have been talking about but im in college and want to stay. i feel torn between haveing another baby and staying in school. i dont no wat to do..... any help would be helpful

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Katie - posted on 01/13/2011

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Im 21 years old and my little girl will turn 2 in April. My husband and I have decided to start having another child, I have always wanted my babies close together. No one else wants us to because I am also in school and my husband is the only one working. But I would rather make sacrifices now and have my children close together. I still have about two years of college left but I know I can do it! You and your boyfriend should decide together!

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Halie - posted on 01/10/2011

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In my opinion you should finish your education so that you wont have to be worrying about 2 kids and tests and studying. My advice to you would finish your schooling then have another baby.

Krystal - posted on 01/08/2011

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I'm about to be 21, I have a 2 1/2 year old and an 8 month old. Both girls. My husband is about to be 26 (5 years and 5 days apart) and he wanted his kids close in age and before he was 30. Our girl's age difference is perfect for us, but I wish I would have waited. With trying to go back to school and potty training, nursing, and everything else college just isn't feasible until fall (when my oldest will be starting tiny tots) I wish it could be sooner. I'm glad we chose the spacing but we'll be waiting 5 years until we have number 3. :) good luck!!

Akosua - posted on 01/05/2011

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Shae, I believe it all depends how good you can carry your pregnancy. You mention you have a two yr old son so u definately can predict how pregnancy is for you. As for me my pregnancy is very uncomfortable to the sense I had to drop out of school. With my second baby I was in college and then found out that I was pregnant. Within the first 2 months of pregnancy, I couldn't feel like reading nor participating in any discussions with classmates. All I wanted to do was to lay down and least I forget, the throw ups was ridiculous. I will say, it a very good thing and all to want other baby since they are a blessings in our lives. But u know your body well and also the loads you have at school including work only if you are working. I also believe with your partner by your side you will do well since both of you are making the decision together. Bear in mind, education and children are all important in our lives but the decsions is based upon you two. Good luck.

Sherri - posted on 01/03/2011

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You will never regret finishing your education. You'll have plenty of time for babies.

Rachel - posted on 01/01/2011

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I have 4 children and studying to get my degree, it is definitely easier without children but not impossible with. you need to be realistic about your ability to cope with stressful situations, deadlines for assignments and crying babies do not go hand in hand, boy do I know that one!! :D Also you have to ask yourself how much help your boyfriend is, if he is not overly helpful with one child then he isn't necessarily going to be any better with 2, and you will definitely need more help with 2. If you can tick all or even most of the boxes regarding help around the house, caring for children etc. and can cope relatively well with stress then good luck, I have found it both a challenge and a chore studying with my children very young, but it is extremely rewarding knowing that I have done this even though my circumstances don't necessarily lend themselves to an easy student life like those around me, but I never really expected them to. Good luck whatever you decide, I am sure it will work out for you xxx

Shae - posted on 01/01/2011

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well this is only my first yr in school and i have atleast 5 yrs to go so i want another baby now instead of my son being 7 or 8 before we have another baby

Brianna - posted on 12/31/2010

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well i think it depends.. how long do you have left in school before ur done?

Olivia - posted on 12/29/2010

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it is better to wait until you finish your major also sometimes people think if their first born might not be as accepting of another child at a later age but i found that it was easier for me to have my daughter who was almost 5 at the time of the birth of my son she was excited and she helped out alot now she is in school which is better to cause i can give both kids equal alone time with mommy so i suggest to wait especially if you are attending school

Shae - posted on 12/29/2010

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well i am going to school as a full time student. me and my boyfriend r the only ones that want us to have a baby right now... we talked about it last night and we r going to have a baby, but we r not sure if we r ganna wait till next yr or not.

Caitlin - posted on 12/28/2010

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Can't you go to school and have another? I have 2 daughters (10 months and 2 years) and we are trying for our third and i've been studying the whole time (I do online courses through my late pregnancy so that I wont disrupt my course schedule when i am due). I go to school part time, work part time and take care of my girls the rest of the time (4 days a week kids, 2 days work and school when I can fit it in..) Kids and school aren't mutually exclusive!

Shae - posted on 12/28/2010

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well this is my first yr in school and i just want another baby before my son gets to old and to use to being an only child

Tiffany - posted on 12/28/2010

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i was 20 and in university when i had my first child. i decided to have another baby before returning to education. im now 22 married with two kids. im happy but returning to university as an older student now seems very scary as i feel im out of the loop now and dont have as much confidence. if u dont have long to finish your course i would advise u to keep at it as it will be harder to do with two kids and u may never go back

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