what can i do?

Lucia - posted on 07/20/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




my son has started throwing things at me if he doesnt get his way, can someone please tell me what i can do to stop him from doing this?


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Stacy - posted on 07/20/2009




Always remain calm. I was told to keep a "blank" face when tantrums occur. No reaction. Do the 1, 2, 3 thing. Use "that's One, That's two, and on three go to time out. The 1st time tell them why you're putting them in time out, after that keep the blank face and make them stay in time out...1 minute per year of age. Be consistent. I wish someone had told me about this w/ my oldest (6yrs). It seems to be really good on my 2 yrd old, so far...knock on wood. I know it may seem harsh for such a young age, but from my experience w/ my 1st...start as early as possible!!! They Do understand and the no reaction/blank face thing shows them that no matter how much they throw, scream, kick, etc...they're not getting to you and you're not giving in. Good Luck!

Elizabeth - posted on 07/20/2009




My 2 year old is a nightmare for this. Whatever you do don't give in because it will just get worse as he gets older. If there is no danger to him try totally ignoring him and walking away. It may take a couple of times but he'll soon realise that when you say no you mean it.

If it's food or drink they've asked for and you don't want him to have the unhealthy option try placing the food/drink you have chosen on the work surface and say "It's there if you want it but you can't have anything else" Then walk away from it. Works every time with my daughter.

Hope this helps

Justine - posted on 07/20/2009




How old is he? If it is a toy of his or food i would have a bag, keep it near to the bin (n pretend it is a bin) pick whatever it is up and say 'its not nice to throw things at mummy this is going in the bin now' take it away put it in the bag and keep out of his reach - Basically u can keep going until his tantrum is over n he realises he is not gaining from it he is losing things by throwing them. stay very calm sort the bag at the end of the day put ur things out of sight from him and his toys u hide away for a couple days then put them back without him knowing it may seem like hard work but its alot easier at the time as u get the satisfaction of pretending to throw things away n he will eventually learn from it.

Lisa - posted on 07/20/2009




How old is your son?Is it happening all the time or is it if he's tired or bored?

All I can suggest is that you try to ignore unwanted behaviour, remain calm and put the things away that he has already thrown and really, really reward (hugs, kisses, tell him how much you love him etc) when he is doing the right thing.

Good luck Lucia, I know this must be hard

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