what can i do to get my son to stop biteing?


Stacey - posted on 01/31/2010




Alot of biting in toddler is anxiety and bitting is a release of this anxiety. With our first he was a little confused and thought biting was kissing and with our second it was a way to relieve tension so first you need to figure out when he is biting the most. For our second we gave him something to bite when he felt tense or excited and that really worked. For our first we had to let him know that we kiss with our lips not our teeth. For our third he bite when he was angry so we gave him other ways to deal with his anger like using works or stomping his feet and that worked really well. I hope some of this helps.

Marialisa - posted on 01/27/2010




my daughter use to do that alot it was even bad when she gave kisses to her brother or sister she'd add a bite too. Part of it was the teething stage and learning to control that couriousity. I was told by others to bite her back which i thought was not somehting i agreed with, so i introduced celary or carrots as snacks and had story time with puppets telling her a story about a teddy that bit everyone and explained it with actions and always telling her no no bite and she understood. Hope it helps :)


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Geralyn - posted on 02/02/2010




We were able to stop the biting by our reaction. Of course, when it hurts, I couldn't help by cry out in pain. I would tell our little one "No, that hurts mommy," talk with him about hurting me, and hold him away from me so that he couldn't bite or I would put him down. I would also try to work on figuring out what was frustrating him (usual cause). He learned pretty quickly that biting was a no no. We did not have to resort to biting our son.

Niele - posted on 01/30/2010




Absolutley bite back! my son went through that stage ... i guess its very comon, and i tried so many things and nothing worked.... and one day he bit me on the leg really hard!!! bruised an all... and i picked him up, grabbed his leg n bit him back! hard too ( well hard enough to leave a redness) he screamed and cried but never did it again, and 1 week later when my leg was still purple, he pointed and said ooooOOOOoooo sore! and i reminded him that yes it was very sore and this is what happens when u bite! and he lifted his leg and pointed to that (where i had bit him - no marks there of course) so they remember. Fletch was about 20months at the time. But a friend had those issues with a 4yr old and she washed his mouth out with soap! but he was biting kids a preschool, teachers,anyone really and it was maliciouswhen he didnt get his own way, but after the soap, he never did it again. good luck!

Kristy - posted on 01/28/2010




As one reply said 90% of the time the only way to stop a biter is to bite back. You need to did it hard enough for him to realise it actually hurts not hard enough to leave any real lasting marks. This tact works with alot of things like hair pulling and that sort of thing. The biggest things is you need to make him realise that what his is doing hurts and thats not nice so he needs to stop

Candis - posted on 01/27/2010




my boys did the same thing! I think most kids go through a biting stage. I started time outs and if that didn't work I would smack them on the lips. not hard of course, you just want them to know the action is not okay.

Natasha - posted on 01/27/2010




first say no ofcourse, but then very gently bite back, once this happens a few times, the
y soon learn there is a consequence and that they don't like it

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