What do i do about his hitting?

Heather - posted on 07/07/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My boy will be two in october and he likes to hit. for no reason or for telling him no. I don't know what to do?!

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Explain to him on his level that it is not ok to hit. That he is hurting that person and make him have a time-out. After his time-out have him tell the person he hit sorry and give them a hug or "love" as we call it to make them feel better. You will just have to watch him closely and catch him every time to be consistant. If he is hitting other kids then you may have to get to the point of telling him that the friends don't want to play with him because he can't play nice and once he plays nice again then his friends can come play again. It is all about being consistant and having the same reaction to it. Don't yell because to him you are not being nice either. Set the example and make sure he doesn't see you or other family members hit even if it is playfully and teasing. That was an issue for my husband. He likes to wrestle and play but then our kids started doing it as well. I had to have this talk with my husband!! It was funny but it helped. Good Luck and you can do it!!

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Lori - posted on 07/10/2009

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I have tried many different ways as well! My three year old was use to just her and I then her dad came home, on top of it we have had two children in less than a year and found out that we have another on the way again! But to be consistent with talks and time outs. If he/she is in time outs then they can realize and focus on why they are being in their time out to think about it. Would be wise to get an egg timer for them to see and hear there amount of time. Just keep on it and they will understand eventuallly and it will teach them to listen. I also believe distracting them from a negative reaction to a new one, like singing, dancing and being a child with them will help. May sound silly but they will appreciate it and see more joy.
As what goes with his father, tell him that you want what is best for your child and if he will continue to act foolishly then maybe you should get supervised visits. Physical is not the way to be, it will be stressful and draining on each and everyone of you. It will teach your baby that is okay and it isn't. Maybe if the both of you talk about counseling together even if you two are not together it is what is best for your child. To learn how to respect each other and grow better and to teach your child. It is our best interest to teach our children right and wrong. No abuse or negativity. My prayers are with you and your family.

Dulce - posted on 07/09/2009

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LOL, sorry but my son is the same way. So far I've tried telling him that's bad, putting him on time out, spanking his hand, I don't know what else to do. But I feel like when I put him on time out and let him know that hitting is bad and that it hurts he does seem to understand and it really has gotten down (the hitting).

Heather - posted on 07/09/2009

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i have tried bing consistant but then his dad comes around and ruins it. When ever his dad and i are in the same room we end up in a fight. Physically, it gets really bad some times. Then again he only cares about number one... Himself. and now jaden thinks that it is ok. This recent one was really bad. Its really hard to tell his dad that he can't come around because he is a bad influence on our son. Jaden, my son has anger issues and sepparation issues since he left. I just don't know what to do about this or how to approach this?

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