What is a 2 years old baby supposed to do ? I am not sure about how my daughter is developing?

Sierranevada - posted on 08/18/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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she understands 4 languages but only answers/speak in English, she likes dancing, jumping, singing, finds medium size puzzles too easy, plays simple video game moving caracters on the screen with the remote control, she counts un to 4, gets angry or agressive with some adults when they want to get too close. Since she is not in daily contact with other kids (only 1 a week) I don't know how it affects her development. What is your opinion/experience???

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Deborah - posted on 08/25/2010

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I work from home, but because laura is an only child and there are no kids near where I live, I got her into a nursery 2 mornings a week. This gives me a break and her some friends to play with.

Also kids learn to play by watching kids playing, maybe take her to a park when you're off work, soon she'll see other kids playing together and want to join in. Kids are so open and accepting that if you put a load of strange kids together they will play together.

However at 2 it is mostly parallel play (where they play near each other but actually with each other) so don't be disappointed if she doesn't immediately join a group. Just letting her be in an area with other kids for an hour or 2 when you can will do her wonders.

Erin - posted on 08/19/2010

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She sounds really smart to me. My son is 2 and a half and he does a lot of the things you mentioned minus the 4 languages, puzzles and we've never tried the video games.They say at this age once a week is all they need for socializing. All they really do is parallel play anyway. Although, my son doesn't get a ton of exposure to other children either and I've had some of the same concerns. He was in daycare once a week for a while but we no longer need it. I've been just bringing him to the park and other places where there's kids for the summer but he seems to have no interest in them. Come September I'm going to do gymboree with him, we did it before he was in daycare. I've always had a hard time socializing him because I have no friends with kids. They do learn from one another but they also pick up on each others bad habits as well. Either way as long as they have some exposure to other kids and then preschool I think they should be fine.

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Sierranevada - posted on 08/24/2010

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Thanks to all for your valuable feedback. It is nice to be able to share some worries with more experienced moms. Mine passed away before my daughter was borne and I don't have any friends around with kids to whom I can turn to when I have questions. The idea of sending her to playgroups is fine, the only constrain is that, since I am working 100%, it is only her dad who can bring her to those; and being the only male in a group of a dozen of moms is not easy/comfortable for him at all... If you have other ideas, opinion, thanks to share them! cheers

Sierranevada - posted on 08/24/2010

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Betty's message is very touching and I feel sad that she can not enjoy more her grand-son. I was raised by my grand-mother and all the values and education I have was thank to her loving care. I hope Betty will find a way to express her feelings and to be heard regarding her legitimate need to spend more time with Alex! All the best to her and to the parents. I hope they will be humble and reasonable enough to realise that grand-parents are a great source of knowledge, care, support and love for the kids. There should be no competition in how much love should be given and by whom to the little ones!. Good luck

BETTY - posted on 08/20/2010

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My grandson is about on track with your daughter. He will be 2 on the 31st of this month. My daughter-in-law is Chinese and speaks her language to Alex most of the time. I know it is a good thing to be bi-lingual, but I think it can also be confusing. He is a very bright child and he really enjoys being with me, she seems to not like our relationship...don't know if it's because I play with him on his level or repeat words in English to him. The only word I have heard him say is Momma...the rest of the time he grunts or points. He doesn't have any children to play with either..not very often and when he does you can almost see the sunshine around him. I thought maybe I was making something out of nothing but my niece came over the other day with her 6 yr old son...Alex loved having someone to play with...even with the big age gap. When we got back to my house my niece commented on the fact that she picked up on some hostility my daughter-in-law showed towards me. So I know it isn't just me. I would love for us to have a close relationship...we don't do any thing together. She and my son have no siblings...and I'm almost positive he is the only grandchild I will have. I'm almost 60 and that doesn't give me a lot of years to be with him. I just want to have a better relationship and to be able to see Alex a little more often. She has went for months at a time of not letting me see him. I want to know what I can do to improve our situation.

Kristen - posted on 08/20/2010

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Wow! I was shocked when you said your daughter understands 4 languages, but then someone else posted that as well! That is amazing!
she sounds like a very well developed 2 year old! If you are worried about socializing, just have more playdates =] I meet alot of other moms in my area by going on meetup.com, they are very cautious so they are safe meetups! But you can meet alot of moms in your area with children the same age, its great!

Beth - posted on 08/20/2010

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Academically I'd say she is a super genius but socially she is too isolated. Relax and let her enjoy being a kid a bit more. Enroll her in gymnastics, or art or music classes where she will have to interact with other kids and adults. Try to find a program where you can drop her in the class and observe from another room or even just wait until the class is over before seeing her again.

There will be an adjustment period but she definitely needs to get out into the world a bit more, and to respect adults for their role in her life.

Deborah - posted on 08/19/2010

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My cousin knows 3 languages, but it wasn't until recently (he's 4 now) he managed to actually seperate them in his brain. Before if asked something in greek he would answer in spanish or english, or a mixture of all 3!

Can't really remember the development at 2, but at 3 my daughter is able to do a simple jigsaw (if patience lets her!) she plays little cooking games and things on the computer, can count to about 13 (sometimes missing a few numbers), is very possessive over her toys.

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