What is suitable for a time out?

Cynthia - posted on 03/26/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My daughter has recently turned 2 and now in the last week her behaviour has gotten ten times worse. She cries alot now when she doesn;t get her own way, screaming at the top of her lungs, laying on the floor when she doesn't want to go with me, and having small temper tantrums. What I wan to know is are all these things suitable for a time out or should I just leave her alone sometimes? AND time-outs in public(like a store)what to do then??

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Allie - posted on 04/05/2011

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My son sits on the bottom stair step... on minute per year old (he's 2 almost 3 but gets a 2 minute time out). TV (if on goes off) and all toys out of reach. If he gets up out of the spot the time starts over. I don't do "guard duty" so I walk away a bit.

If we're in a public place, I'll find a sanitary bench or chair (if I HAVE to I'll set him on the floor/ground) and I won't walk far away but I'll look the other direction.... and depending on the 'crime' I might do a shorted time out, but long enough to make him realize that the behavior is not acceptable.





As for when to put a child in time out, I would say if you've given a warning saying to stop the behavior and he/she doesn't listen to that warning then time out is in store. My opinion is that they have to learn that certain behaviors are not okay... with that said, there are times when I simply ignore temper tantrums.

LaCi - posted on 03/28/2011

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Time out was a nightmare for me at the beginning of the terrible twos. Now that he's gotten the hang of it, the threat of time out usually works. In public, I have no idea. He's an angel in public. It's just at home that we have problems, and we have a designated cube that he has to sit on which I had to practically hold him down on in the beginning. But now he sits there. He gets it :/



Usually if he's doing something he shouldn't be, tantrums, general misbehaving, whatever, I tell him to stop, I'll do that a couple times. If he still doesn't stop I threaten time out. If it still doesn't stop he goes in time out.

Louise - posted on 03/26/2011

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This is a stage they all go through it is control that they want. I have made the bottom step of the stairs our naughty step and when my daughter goes into a full on screaming session I place her on the step and let her calm down. I have only had to do this twice and now when she starts I just say go and calm down and she takes herself to the step. Bless her. It has just made her realise that she is out of control and needs time to calm down. I have not experienced a wobbly out and about yet. Children respond the most to being ignored. If she is throwing a wobbly just completly blank her and let her do it. No eye contact or reaction from you is the best because you are then taking her control of the situation away. Screaming is to get a reaction good or bad, if you ignore it you still have control and she has achieved nothing. In time she will stop using this method for control as it does not work.

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Time out in my house is often my son in his room. He has to stay in there until he is ready to come out and be sweet and is calm. Sometimes this is within the first minunte or two, sometimes it takes him twenty minutes. but when he is ready he comes out and we can have fun again!

occasionally for minor things, like disobeying me, he will get a time out on the bottom step of the stairs.

I have put my son on timeout in a resturant, a coffe shop, a copy center - just about anywhere. He is scared enough to not move from the spot I put him.

I do not spank as I believe children learn by example, and if I am hitting my child all I am doing is teaching him that hitting is okay if you are bigger and stronger. I get most of my discipline strategies from Love and Logic (www.loveandlogic.com)

Claire - posted on 04/03/2011

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Once they understand what a time out is, they usually want ot avoid it. If my son is getting crazy I just ask him, do you need a time out? He'll tell me no, and I tell him well he needs to stop what he's doing and that works. Getting him to understand the concept of time out took some time though. I have him stand in the corner and at first I had stand there with him to make sure he stayed. And they say appropriate timing is 1 min/per year of age. So he gets a 2-3min timeout. And its working great!

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Mothtoflame - posted on 03/28/2011

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i agree with louise we use the bottom step some kids take longer than others to get the idea that they need to stay there until they are calm or a small stool/chair/mat in a quiet corner works just as well it is a stage they all go through at some time and if it happens in public ignore it (and the stares) remember that enyone else who remembers having young kids will know what your going through.x

Tasha - posted on 03/27/2011

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welcome to the terrible twos. the best thing i have found out works is to try different ways of dicipline. my son is almost 2 and a half and i found that idea of time out or spanking works better than anything. all i have to say is "do you want to go to the corner?" and mine acts right most of the time.

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