what is the best way to get a 2 year old to listen


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Morgan - posted on 04/16/2010




Yes definitely get down to their level and speak to them the way you would like to be spoken to. I find it works better than yelling at them. Yes sometimes you are going to yell but try not to. The more positive you are the better they respond cause by yelling at them all you really do is make them scared

Rebecca - posted on 04/15/2010




I know this sounds strange but i ask my son to "turn his ears on" and he turns them on so to speak and listens to me. my son is 31months and we have been using this method for a few months now and is actually working. Oh but there is a down side to this, when hes in a bad mood or just doesnt want to listen to me he say "ears OFF".

good luck

Kelly - posted on 04/15/2010




couldnt agree more,.. being i have 3 kids 4,3,2, lots of praise and make it exciting when introducing anything to them. When I want my little ones to clean up after them selves I sing this fun song called clean up. Its amazing how fast they want to help and lend a hand.

Allison - posted on 04/15/2010




I agree! Eye level contact is a must. And don't let them just run off or look the other way, be consistent and insist that they acknowledge you talking :) Not forcefully, of course, but ask that they look at you, if they understand or agree, etc, until you get some response from them. Otherwise, I think they learn to ignore you ! It's hard to remember every time that you need to get on their level, I know, but it really does work wonders(almost) every time! And for my son, I am sure to explain things in terms that are meaningful to him, not "just because I say" but, for example "we pick up toys so they don't get lost" or "please don't yell because it hurts mommy's ears". Although you have to be firm, they are curious above all else, and can understand a LOT even at age 2 if we teach them with love and patience and consistency :)

And lots of positive reinforcement - especially when they are good WITHOUT being asked!!! That's often when we forget, but it's most important because it trains them to repeat the good behavior :) And they will associate your words with good feelings that way, which makes them listen better all the time.

Louise - posted on 04/15/2010




Always get down to his level and keep eye contact. Tell him what you want him to do and then ask him to tell you what you have just said. Eye contact is important, if he is not looking at you he is not listening.

Nade - posted on 04/15/2010




get on his level,lots of eye contact,ask him what you said maybe so see if they understood or a good thing is visual...pictures of what you want them to do through photos and add a rewards chart?lost of praise for followinf through

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