What should I do if my oldest keeps biting my youngest and nothing we do stops her??

Jessica - posted on 04/02/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My oldest keeps biting my youngest daughter and nothing we do stops her. We have put her in time-outs, spanked her bottom, and even yelled at her. Nothing seems to be working. What should I try??

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Jessica - posted on 06/26/2010

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Thank you for all the help ladies. I'm sorry that it took me so long to respond back. But the lip thing really worked!!! Antoinette hasn't bitten anyone in a while! Thanks again

Alyssa - posted on 06/11/2010

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Its good if try to explain to her that she is causing pain and making her sister sad by biting her. Children arent born knowing this. They have to learn empathy. The pain of a spank only lasts a minute, unlike the knowledge that what shes doing hurts. She may not even connect the spanking to the biting because she doesnt realize the actual consequence, which was that she hurt her sister

Sam - posted on 04/24/2010

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so if they dont have empathy how do they figure out not to bite cuz it makes the other person get attention??? anyway i would do what ashley said, two year olds are smart but if they dont respond to yelling or empathy then they will respond to pain, the lip thing will not be perminate damage. and if you were smaking thru a diaper she may not have felt anything at all and didnt really care

Renae - posted on 04/03/2010

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If you believe she is doing it for attention, lavish attention on the VICTIM not the biter. For many little ones any attention is better than none, and her biting gets you to focus on her. It seems counter productive, but when mine had that problem we would point out that they had hurt someone and go overboard with consoling the bitten child while ignoring the biter. Kids are smart, they figure it out pretty quickly. I don't agree with causing pain to a young child just to show how it feels, very few 2 yr olds have empathy- they think the world revolves around them...

Jen - posted on 04/03/2010

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my advice wud be take her favourite things away wen she bites only give it her back wen se knows its wrong to bite

Justin - posted on 04/03/2010

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I agree with Ashley on this one, my youngest (almost 2) started biting, at first it was only my self and her sister, but then she bit some one at day care, what the day care provider (with my permission, we had just discussed that she was biting at home), was press her bottom lip down on her sharp little teeth and then explained to her that it hurts. It has been about 4 weeks since she has bitten anyone or anything.

Ashley - posted on 04/02/2010

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We were taught a trick at the daycare i worked at to stop biting. it sounds kind of rough but if you put their bottem lip on there bottom teeth and just apply a little pressure they feel what it feels like without actually causting them harm. it worked for one of our kids there who would bite other chldren through their diapers.

Jessica - posted on 04/02/2010

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Antoinette is 2 and Kadance is 9 1/2 months. Antoinette gets a lot of attention from everyone. She had a Mommy daughter day today and hopefully another one tomorrow. Thank you.

Siobhan - posted on 04/02/2010

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What i would suggest is having a mom and daughter day with your daughter. Is there much in the age difference? She's probably just feeling a little left out.

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