What to do about my daughter's imaginary dragon???

Stephanie - posted on 06/04/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter will be 3 in July and about 6 months ago she told me she had a friend that was a dragon. He was a nice dragon and they played, ran around and she even talked to it occasionally. But a few months ago her dragon has become mean. She says he hits her and isn't nice and she wakes up in the middle of the night sometimes crying saying something that her dragon has done to her! I don't know what to do about it, any ideas??

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Megan - posted on 06/05/2009

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Hi. My 2 1/2 yr. old daughter is convinced there are bears in the hallways of our house. One night at about 2 a.m. she woke me up (again) hyperventilating about the bears. So, I grabbed my body mist perfume (cheap stuff from Walgreens), told her it was "Bear Be Gone" and went aaaaaaaall over the house with it, spraying every shadow and corner. As a result, she still tells me there are bears in the house, but now she only does it during our playtime and the whole routine has become a fun bedtime ritual we do together. We giggle and everything. The only time she ever said a "bear" bit her was the day a little boy at daycare actually did bite her. So, first, I'd explore what her day is like with regards to how other real people are treating her (you don't know the people, but you do know the dragon, so she's speaking in terms YOU "understand") and then I'd grab your perfume and have at it. When we tried just water, she told me in no uncertain terms that it was my perfume that worked "special". I think she just liked being able to smell me when I wasn't around. And of course, there's always the idea of getting her a stuffed dragon that she can talk to, who will, in turn, handle the invisible dragon. Maybe she just needs an interpreter? That worked great when there was a "Puma" living under our bed. Sigh. Good luck!

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Heather - posted on 06/06/2009

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These are all great ideas, but I think it is also important to look into what has changed in her life since the dragon has become mean. Our 6 year old still has imaginary friends and I notice a pattern with how they are getting along and what they are doing with her friends at school and what they are doing.

Does your daughter go to daycare or even with a family member? Is there something that has changed that has scared her but she isn't talking about? Just some thoughts... Good Luck, and aside from the fact the dragon has gotten mean, how wonderful your daughters imagination is! She is an amazing young lady. I hope you work it all out.

Megan - posted on 06/06/2009

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I love that my daughter has such a vivid imagination too. It's hard to come up with equally imaginative solutions! BTW: If you like to read, check out the book "If You Could See Me Now". It's a grown-up book (gasp! :) but it's about an "invisible" (but not imaginary) friend. I dug it. It's by the same woman who wrote "P.S. I Love You", but I can't seem to remember her name at the moment. You'll have to let me know what ultimately works out for you. Who knows what will pop up next around here!

Stephanie - posted on 06/05/2009

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i like the perfume idea. & my daughter spends the day (well 4 hours) with my mother in law, and her little sister goes there too. My mother in law watches all the grand kids that are not in school so right now she watches 4. but i know that nothing out of the ordinary is going on there. Her dragon does not hit her everyday, some days he is nice & other days he is a mean guy. I asked my mother in law if her boy cousin was hitting her or anything and she has kept a very good eye on them and nothing is going on. I am okay with having imaginary friends or animals..i just wish je was being nice!! but i definitely try the perfume idea, thats a great one!! thanks!

Stephanie - posted on 06/05/2009

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thank you for the idea. & its not that it bothers me that she has an imaginary friend, its that she has become scared of it. If she wants to keep her "dragon friend" then I just want to help her realize its friendly. =) but I may try your suggestion and hope it works, thanks!

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all kids have imaginary friends, people can read alot into it and say that it is spirit but some times it is just imaginary.



My usual suggestion for night terrors may not work in this instance, but I'll give it anyway.



- Make up a little pot of glitter dust, add a few stars and maybe lavender (flowers or oil) and get your daughter one of those fairy wing and wand sets. Don't involve your daughter in this.

- Leave the pot of 'fairy dust' somewhere for your daughter to find one morning and tell her that a special dream fairy (insert name here) had heard that she had a nasty dragon bothering her so they left her some of their fairy dust. Make sure to stress that dragons are very afraid of fairys.

- Before she goes back to bed, get her to dress up in the wings and wand and scatter the dust around her room and bed. You might want to say something together i.e. a magic spell to make the dragon know that the fairys have been and want it to leave her alone. You might also want to use it around areas that they played together alot i.e. garden or livingroom ect.



Hope this helps.

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