what to expect from my three year old whos expecting a lil bro and daddy leaving for army?

Cristal - posted on 07/31/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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my second son is due in 2 days hopefully and my husband is currently enlisted for the army. this s a new change for all of us. so he jus got his shipment date for basic training and be gone for 14 weeks. hes leaving aug 11th about a week from my sons due date. my worry is what to expect from my three year old who expecting lil brother and then daddy leaving so close together. how do i cope with this or help him ?

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Cristal - posted on 08/02/2009

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thanks sooo much i figure that it would be alot for him.. but i guess im doin by rite cuz i am preping him reminding him hes the big brother and will need to help me also i have been showing him baby stuff and we play nicely with the baby doll at his daycare to practice gentle ways to care for a baby.....daddy also has been trying and is talking to him recently about army..joshua seems to be soaking in the info im jus waiting for the action to be taking well hope for the best my big boy will do great......thanks sooo much again for the advice.

Melissa - posted on 08/01/2009

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I would expect the worst. This is a massive shift for him, and kids usually do not like change. What I did when I had my youngest, and daddy left for Iraq right before, was show the other kids how much fun a new baby can be. I encouraged the big brother role, and the big sister role. I let them help with everything (except breast feeding of course) but they helped burp, clean and everything. I had a 3 kids at this point, ages 2, 4, and 6. Even the 2 year old was eager to lend a hand. That's not to say there weren't adjustment issues, because there were. But have multiple kids has shown me that the older ones (no matter how young) need to help. You would be amazed how much they can do. Oh and praise him a lot for it. "You are the best big brother." "You make the baby so happy." "What would baby do with out you?" The most important is to make sure you set aside time everyday to focus just on your 3 yr old. No matter how exhausted you are, he needs this time to know that not everything has changed.

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