What would you do to discipline a toddler for misbehaving without spanking him!


Jennifer - posted on 10/15/2009




My almost 3 year old son has behavioral problems and what I found to work is warn him of a time out. Then if he continues to do something bad I sit him on my lap with his arms in his lap and don't look at him. After a moment I start counting to 20. If he starts kicking I hold his legs too. He realizes that the more he throws a tantrum the less freedom he has in his time out is. Plus counting to 20 helps him know how much time he has. This is the only thing that has worked for me because he will not sit in one place. Spanking never worked so its a lost cause. Plus now he listens a little better. Its a work in progress. good luck.

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I use time out, take away toys, put him in his room and close the door (for no more than 3 minutes -one minute for each year). I always try to do something that fits the crime. For example, he was pushing his friend at the playground and I told him to stop and he did it again so I ended the playdate and we left immediately. Or one time he kept spitting so I took his cookie away and told him that he didn't deserve a special treat for doing that. And I never give in to his tears!


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Carolee - posted on 10/19/2009




Naughty chair! Then he has to apologize. Then, give you a hug and tell you that he loves you. After that, talk about why he did what he did, and what he should have done in the first place to get the desired outcome.

Mary - posted on 10/18/2009




Use a time out. Discipline, even at an early age is a good thing. It teaches them to be responsible and in return better adults. It's never to early to teach them how to be responsible.

Jamie - posted on 10/18/2009




Redirection, praising the positive, telling them why they can't do something in words they understand, time away if needed, and relevant consequences (they throw a toy, you tell them not to because they might hurt someone, they do it again, you take the toy and tell them why you are).

Paula - posted on 10/18/2009




i use a naughty step or put my toddler in his room. you place them on the step or in the room for how ever many minutes of their age so if they are two they are in their room for two minutes then i go in and get him to say sorry and give me a kiss and cuddle i found it works every time

Christy - posted on 10/15/2009




I put ny 2 y/o in bed, until he stops screaming and crying. It helps you b/c you are walking away from the situattion, and him b/c he is taken out of the loop!!!!!

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The best thing you can do is talk to them...you might think they don't understand you but they do. My lil one just turn 1 and she knows when shes in time out, I always talk to her and let her know when shes done something wrong and in return I get kisses. Have patience it takes time but at the end is all worth it. And spanking is not the solution, it really doesn't teach them anything. Best luck to you!

Stephanie - posted on 10/15/2009




My mom always tells me to change the focus. I spank though....sometimes I turn her bad behavior into and funny game. Like if she won't pick up her toys I make a huge deal out of racing her to pickup the toys.

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