When do you know its time (or not time) for another child?

Kari - posted on 07/10/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




My son will be 2 in about a month. In many ways I want another child, but he has also been a struggle lately with whining, tantrums, etc. I am an only child and don't want my child to be one, but it has also been a difficult couple of months. Please help!


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Jade - posted on 07/11/2009




i have a gap of 2 years 11 months with my first two kids and that i found enjoyable.my eldest was past the jelousy stage but remember all kids are different.she understood the whole baby in the tummy thing and loved having the baby but then i fell pregnant again unplanned when bub no.2 was 3 months old and the gap is 12 months apart.my third child was born a day before my 2nd childs 1st birthday and i would never do it again or reccomend such a close gap.it was extreamly hard basically having two babies.i've been told it would be easier having twins because at least they're at the same developmental milestones.i had a newborn and a crawler waiting in his highchair to be fed.they both had day sleeps but i'd be up between night feeds with the other bubby teething instead.it's a personal choice but the bigger the gap probably the better.

Lynlee - posted on 07/10/2009




I think you will know you are ready for another one when your desire for one outweighs your worries about sleepness nights etc that a newborn brings. There will always be a new developmental stage that your older child is going through so don't put it off because of that.

Jocelyn - posted on 07/10/2009




i ended up getting pregnant the day before my sons 2 birthday lol, so they will be almost 3 years apart. it will be difficult because we are starting potty training soon, and i am due in just 3 months, so that might take awhile. my son is also whiny and temperamental, but he is only two and i know it can't last forever :) i don't think there is ever a certain way to tell that you are ready for another one. my closest guess would be that if you've kept your first alive for this long then you could definitely keep another one alive LOL

Ashley - posted on 07/10/2009




I think in general there is no right time...you can never be fully prepared when it comes to kids! I had my second child 4 mnths before my son turned 3 and it was tough. Some people think waiting 5 or more yrs between siblings is good and some people think less than 5 yrs is better. Just weigh the pros and cons...when they're closer together you most likely have most of the neccesities needed for a newborn...crib...swing...stroller...carseats...etc. The con .it gets tough trying to potty train and keep up with a toddler when you have a newborn waking you up every 2 hrs a night. Of course you will make the right decision for yourself and your family and whether you wait or not another baby will be a blessing and Im sure you wont regret it either way!

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