who would rather have a there babies natural birth or c-section?

Janeleg21 - posted on 02/11/2010 ( 103 moms have responded )

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I had all mine c-section and i got better faster the mother that had a natural birth...

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Ashley - posted on 02/15/2010

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All natural, out of hospital with midwives, definitely!
If you had all of your's by c-section, you have no idea how fast you would have healed had you given birth naturally... you can't compare yourself to other women, we're all different.

Jackie - posted on 02/12/2010

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My daughter was 100% natural (no pain meds or anything) and I would def. rather than than a C. As someone commented above, I was up and moving around almost immediately, I didn't have to recover from major abdominal surgery while trying to adjust to and bond with my newborn, and I have no scar from it. #2 will arrive the same way barring any unexpected emergencies.

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Mary - posted on 02/22/2010

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First I had a natural and I felt like someone beat the hell out of me.

2nd two c-section... even a classical incision, straight up and down.

c-section is a better recovery. esp. the 2nd one.

Sarah-Jane - posted on 02/22/2010

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I had my little boy by c-section and its very scarey but so is natural birth. It took me a few days to sink in that i had a baby i did not have to work to bring him into the world and i have felt something missing i just got handed a baby. Yes after the operation it is sore but as a single mother i had no choice i had to do every thing but i did get told at the hospital the people who sit about after a c-section are the ones who will take longer after my section i was up and about the next day and home in two days. If i have the choice i would have to have another c section as i would be scared if i treated the children different but no matter what way they come into the world we all love them the same

Susanne - posted on 02/21/2010

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Natural, definitly! I had both my girls that way, without any medication, and it was the most wonderful experience of my life. Of course it did hurt but it was really not that bad, it's just the way it is, right?
Actually I think it's just wrong to have a c-section just because the mother doesn't want the pain or "doesn't feel like". And I think it's even more wrong that doctors advice young, unexperienced mums to have a cesarian as "completly risk-free and painless" so they can plan their work shifts and don't have to be bothered with working on Sundays or bank holidays.

And, on another note- nobody seems to think of the babies! Birth is stress for them as well but when they're delivered naturally at least they were ready for it! (And by now, scientists mostly agree that the start signal for birth is given by the baby somehow, rather than by the mother's body.) But just imagine the trauma it must be causing them, lying in their snug little world, maybe even sleeping, and all of a sudden someone is cutting their home open and tearing them from their mother! This is just not natural. It's cruel. And I wish all "I just didn't feel like natural birth"-cesarian mums, that it might hurt as much and long as possible afterwards. Sorry, that's just the way I think.

Belinda - posted on 02/21/2010

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Natural all the way.... I'd hate the recover period after the c-section. It also scares me to have operations and I'd be too nervous lol.

The only thing I'd prefer next time is to try and go without an epidural and let nature take it's course. I didn't like the fact I wasn't able to feel a whole lot down there, and being confined to my bed the whole time

Angel - posted on 02/20/2010

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I have had 3 children, my first was a boy- natural, long(13 hrs.)painful back labor, I was very sore for days & my second was a girl-natural, 3 hours total from start to finish & pushed literally a couple min. & she was out! Great pregnancy,Great birth & fast recovery. My 3rd which was not for 14 yrs. after my last & he came a month early, I was in labor all day & into the evening & could never dilate past 5cm & he started going into distress, his heart dropping & stopping so I unfortunately had to have him by emergency c-section. It was awful, very scary =( he actually came out stillborn but by the grace of God was brought back & put on life support & had to be sent to another hospital 40 miles away. I left the hospital the next morning to go be with him. I was in excruciating pain, doubled over, couldn't walk & literally felt I was dieing w/ no pain medication... but I felt I had to go be with him no matter what. I did & I got through it. It was very painful & definately took longer to recover from than natural & it's been 3 yrs since I had my son, which by the way made a miraculous recovery in a weeks time & has been perfectly healthy ever since other than your average childhood cold =) but I still have pain in my abdominal area & although I have a very minor scar across my pubic area on my panty line it's still kind of tender in that area & somewhat numb still. I def. prefer natural for many reasons, I really think that a c-section should only be done in an emergency birth such as mine to save the baby or mother.

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I had my first as an emergency C-section at 32weeks 5 days and had a great recovery...no pain and was up walking around that evening. I just had my second 7 months ago and had a successful VBAC!! It was great! I would never have another C-section again unless I had to, but only because I felt like I was robbed of part of the miracle of childbirth...there was something amazing about watching your child being born the way God intended and knowing that you have an active role in that process. Don't get me wrong the C-section was fine and definitely not a problem and they have their place in the birthing process, I would just not schedule one for future pregnancies merely out of convenience!

Jennifer - posted on 02/19/2010

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I had all three of mine natural and without drugs and wouldn't have it any other way. They pain was not unbearable and I could get up and walk around directly after birth. Now if I would have had a long drawn out labor...might have changed my mind : }

Kerrie - posted on 02/19/2010

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I ad 2 c sections and was very disappointed both times as i would have loved a natural birth. my second c section was 6 weeks ago and am still recovering and have to take it easy which is hard with my older son who is 2 years old, would much rather a few hours of pain than a few weeks!

Lin - posted on 02/18/2010

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Having gone through an emergency c-section and a scheduled c-section, I'd have to say I prefer a scheduled c-section for my next child. My emergency one did have a lot of pain involved with it (including an epidural without the locals) and a lot of things happened that I wish hadn't; I had problems moving around, getting in/out of bed, the shower, etc.. However, my scheduled c-section went very smoothly, I was up and walking out of bed less than 24 hours after surgery and I forced myself to learn how to get out of bed safely without using the hospital bed rails - I had my baby on Tuesday, was home by Friday, and I took my family to a day-long aquarium trip on Sunday.

That being said, there is something about having a repeat of what you've been through before - you're more prepared and familiar with what is going on; that might have something to do with my bias.

Sarah-Lynn - posted on 02/18/2010

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I had my daughter natural, but a few of my friends have had c-sections and they were alot more mobile and in better physical condition then i was. It took me almost a full week to be able to stand up and walk around. But....... either way you go, It's all worth it in the end :o)

Jenni - posted on 02/18/2010

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i've had two natural births. alot of pain yes but no nasty scar. plus you get all nice and tight again afterwards.

Susan - posted on 02/18/2010

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I had both totally natural and was out in 6 hours loved it would do it again anyday

Amy - posted on 02/18/2010

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I have only had 1 6p 1oz and had her naturally but i am not aloud to have anymore naturally as i tore to much and ended up in surgury anyway... So my next one when i deside to have one will be C-Section.. If i was aloud to i would go natural all the way!!!

Gillian - posted on 02/18/2010

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All 3 babies I had natural infact 2 of the 3 I had nothing, I was home the next day in fact less than 24hours with 2, so no contest why would I want to stay in hospital when I can be home sooner in a normal environment which is healthiar for baby

Sulma - posted on 02/17/2010

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I had three c-sections and had no problem what so ever I was up and about with no problem ............ my last c-section the nursse were so impressed with me because they said I was the only that day that had a c-section and that the other mothers who had a normal delivery were complaining of pain and constantly calling the nurse for everything versus me who didn't need any help what so ever

Cassandra - posted on 02/17/2010

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I had my first three natural and my last c-section. With my first it was compleatly natural and took 5 hours start to finish. My second took 37 hours and an epidural. My third took 15 hours and an epidural. My last ended in a c-section because she was breach and her butt was in the birth canal. I hate the scar and would have delt with a 3 day labor verse the almost month of not being able to move.

Elizabeth - posted on 02/17/2010

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I vote natural. There is something about every minute of the experience that I would never take away from anyone! In fact, as weird as it sounds, I thought giving birth was better than sex. Either way though, you get a miracle!!!!!!

Sarah - posted on 02/17/2010

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I had both my sons completely natural with no drugs. It was a horribly painful experience, but when they were born I felt so amazing and pain free. I felt like I could conquer the world! I could get up and bath myself and enjoy my sons without pain or complication. I was able to go home sooner and didn't have to add pain and recovery to lack of sleep! It is instant relief when they born. I would never choose to have major surgery if I knew I could delivery natural. But I do believe in pain medication, I just didn't have time for it. And if the dr, recomends a c-section than do what is best for you and baby. All that matters is that you have a healthy mom and baby in the end.

Janelle - posted on 02/17/2010

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Natural. I never had a c-section and listening to people who have had one, had me hoping I did not have to have one.

Leslie - posted on 02/17/2010

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i had to have a c-stion after being in labor for more them 12 hour they about lost me and my son i rather have a c-stion

Veronica - posted on 02/17/2010

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Epidural only sweety... no episiotemy none of that... 12 hours and pushed him right out didn't even rip... but a little exercise have your partner take vaseline and two fingers the week of or before ur do date and stretch you out down there... it really works it worked the first time for me and then 10 years later for number 2

Kim - posted on 02/17/2010

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natural for me i have had 3 boys and quite a few stichers but was up and about hours after have them all my middle son was 9lb and was in labour 2 and half hours

Briana - posted on 02/17/2010

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@Desiree, I appreciate the kind words. My son was stuck because his shoulders were nearly 14" and he was almost 9 pounds, His head was also nearly 14". Matter of fact his head and shoulders were exactly the same measurement. I was completely exhausted from the 4 days and 4 hours and hadn;t eaten anything in over 24 hours. So those were also big factors. I won't ever use that midwife again, I can guarantee you that, and I will not have my child in that hospital again. Sad thing? It was a women's hospital. What care I got was fine, but it was how often. I had 2 awesome floor nurses, but they weren't on all the time. I will find a hospital that does vbac, or I will do it at a birthign center or home again. They are out there, and the hospital telling me I have to have another c-section is an infringement of my rights as a patient, a mother, a woman, and a human. I have the right to make the decisions for my body and no one else. Believe me I am not one to mess with when it comes to my body and my decisions. We also only had one ultrasound with our son, the midwife didn't agree with them and at the time I didn't either. When we did the one he was still little for his gestational age. He was actually 2 weeks behind size wise. We know that next time there will be ultrasounds from week 20 on so we can make the decision on whether to section or not. But it will be a not if I have anything to say. I will be more educated the next time around. I will also make sure we have the funds for birthing classes. My pregnancy as a whole was awesome and I loved it, it was a beautiful experience and I wouldn't trade it for the world. He is a healthy, bright, loving little boy. He is full of life and energy and I know he will do something special with his life.

Melissa - posted on 02/17/2010

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Prefer all natural with no drugs what so ever. With my first natural I had demerol which made me quite ill, with my second I had nothing and felt great. Natural childbirth was an amazing experience.

Desiree - posted on 02/17/2010

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BrianaB. So sorry you had to go through all of that with your c-section. Sounds very much like mine. And I swore I'd never have another child because of it.
I totally understand you in wishing for an wanting a natural bith. However if he was stuck at crowning ( my daughter was too, and infact we lost her as they raced me to emergancy c-section... it was a mess! ) then the likelyhood that your body is simply just too narrow is a strong possibility!

I would certainly fire your OB or midwife or whoever you went through and if you have the option your hospital as well. I can tell you that if there is a next time for you, that things probably wont go the same. My son's c-section was completely different! I had a excellent OB and the hospital I had him in was smaller and I got vastly better care.

Im done now ( for a lot of reasons ) and I feel content that not only did I make the right decision in not going natural - he was 4 wks early and I was offered the choice of having a vbac... but he was nearly as big as his sister, so glad I didn't chance it - and the recovery with him was so much better. I was up and out of bed that night and the recovery was so much faster!

Im replying to you because I feel for you, and you remind me of ... well.... me when I had my daughter. You have to get to place where you're OK with what happened, if you decide to have more having a scheduled could be your only choice. A lot of hospitals have "policy" against vbacs. The hospital I had my son in did. However my OB was going to let me try since he was coming so early.

Good luck :)

Desiree - posted on 02/17/2010

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I would absolutely do a natural birth. However my body was not designed for one, so thank god for modern medicine.
I ended up w/ an emergancy c-section with my daughter. She became stuck and we nearly lost us both. I opted for a scheduled c-section with my son. But he came 4 weeks early and had to wait for the OR, so he was very nearly born natural.
But I deffinatly made the right decission to have the c-section with him as well.

C-sections are not fun. They are longer to recover from and it means more hospital time. But sometimes they are the neccessary evil. If it weren't for c-sections my daughter wouldn't be here and probably not my son either.

Milagros - posted on 02/17/2010

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I have had 2 c-sections, First one I had no choice, I was induced, dialted to 9cm but my water had been broken for too long and baby would not come out, had the c-section,My second they told me I couldn't have a natural b/c of my first. Very disappointed would have loved to experience natural.

Ashli - posted on 02/17/2010

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I have only had one child, and I had to have a c-section and will have to have one with the next. I hated it and would have much rather have had a natural birth. My friend had a baby 2 weeks after I did and she was already up and going before I was completely healed.

Vanessa - posted on 02/17/2010

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I had my daughter by natural birth and my son by emergency c-section. I would rather have had a natural birth with both. My recovery was so my faster with my natural birth and so much easier to lose the pregnancy weight as well. I was down to 122 lbs after I had my daughter and after I had my son i just got down to 128 lbs. Natural birth is by for the better way to give birth. Plus another thing is c-section is major surgery, natural birth is not.

Briana - posted on 02/17/2010

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Oh and my son was born healthy and fine. Luckily neither one of us were in distress when I went in for surgery. My scar is still ugly and the inside pain is finally going away, my son is almost 16 months. Still if I move wrong it hurts a little, periods are slightly painful the first couple of days too. NEVER EVER EVER do it again if I can help it.

Briana - posted on 02/17/2010

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I went all natural, no drugs, 4 days of labor and 4 hours of pushing, he crowned and would go no further. He got stuck and I ended up with an emergency c-section. I will NEVER EVER have another c-section if I can help it. There better be another damn good reason for it if I have to go through it again. Took me months to recover, my son was out of my weight limit at 2 weeks old. They gave me an anitbiotic I was allergic to, despite all the allergy warnings, gave me too much gas during surgery, so sick on top of everything else. I was so weak I couldn't even nurse my newborn son. I barely remember the first 4 days of my son's life because of the pain in the incision and lingering effects of the med allergy and overdose. No one ever answered me when I called the desk to come help me out of bed to walk. Or they would answer and never come. It's like because I had no insurance, lost that at 7 and a half months preggers when laid off, and started the whole process as a homebirther I was a leper or something. I am very bitter about the whole c-section experience. Do I feel like less of a woman? No, I don't. However I do feel that a natural vaginal birth would have been better for me and my son. I feel like I was robbed by the whole aftercare experience because no one would listen to me on the staff. So I would gladly go through natural drug free labor and almost delivery again.

Zubeida - posted on 02/17/2010

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Natural is the best. I've heard that the inside scar of a C-Section does not actually heal. painful throughout and it leaves a scar. C-Section might be easier but long term effects always remain

Bea - posted on 02/17/2010

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oh and after all of that MD who was checking my incision few days after being released from the hospital.....accidentaly broke my stiches....so I endup having an open wound for 5weeks....the worst nightmare ever.....but again it was ALL WELL WORTH IT!!!

Bea - posted on 02/17/2010

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sometimes you dont have a choice :( I was going for NATURAL birth no pain meds for 14hr.....everything was great and wonderful....but not much dialation(and my water broke already)....so I got "lovely" pitocin to "speed" things up....after which my baby went into distress and I had an "emergency" c-section.....so COMMON here un US....now I am "stuck" with having another if I get pregnant again since I do not want my baby to go thru anything like my son went thru....everything ended well and he was born healthy, but the "ride" to the OR was the scarest ride of my life!!! But again I WOULD LOVE NATURAL delivery in a perfect world :)

Alisha - posted on 02/16/2010

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I was 2 weeks late and had to be induced.I had my first child by C-section. I laboured for 40 hours but I didn't dialate past 5cm and she was posterior(facing up) I had no choice in the end. No meds, food or sleep I was exhausted and the doctors thought a C-section was best. I tried so hard to have a natural birth but in the end it wasn't in my cards. I had a blood transfusion because my blood pressure was so high throughout the preganancy and the birth so I lost too much blood. My incision got infected from having too much fluid on my stomach, legs and feet. Then I had to stop nursing when I had to be put on blood pressure pills. It seemed like nothing went my way. It was all worth it though when I finally got to see my Olivia. I've been told I could try to have a natural birth next time. So, natural birth or C-section...it doesn't matter just as long as I don't have all the other complications like I did this time.

DEMESHA - posted on 02/16/2010

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I had all 3 of my girls natural with no medicine! i dont think i would want to go throught the surgery and cutting of my stomach! natural is painful but a joyful experience...but however you decide to bring your baby in the world is your choice!

Sarah - posted on 02/16/2010

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well i've had one of each and i'd much prefer a natural birth than a c section... my reason is that after a natural birth you can walk and move, after i had a c section i couldn't move the nurses made me get up that night and i was in so much pain and when i went to bed oh it was terrible if i twisted OMG IT KILLED. plus i still get pain there now its like a stabbing pain (its been 10 months) so i would prefer a natural anyday

Helena - posted on 02/16/2010

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natural all the way i have had both of my girls natural. never want to c section and i healed faster than any of my friends that had c sections (they r to posh to push)

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I would rather have natural. My first was an emergency c-section, the other two were natural and i felt sooo much better after the other two than i did after the c-section.. Not to mention the complications of surgery..

Robin - posted on 02/16/2010

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I have had both! Much rather do the natural child birth then c-section. I hated not being able to pick up my own child after he was born, it made me almost feel like I needed help with everything!

Jacinta - posted on 02/16/2010

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I had both my babies naturally with no pain relief, no gas or drugs what so ever. my sons labor was 7 hours and my daughters was 9 minutes. i am all for nayural birth as i dont like the thought of surgery!

Michelle - posted on 02/15/2010

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natural is more painful in the labor aspect but the recovery ismuch better.....I had 3 natural and was always up walking and bending and feeling fine within hour(s) and 2 of my children were over 8 pounds

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