Will be 2 in April and dont really talk alot.

Christine - posted on 12/30/2009 ( 33 moms have responded )

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My daughter will be 2 in April of 2010 and she dont really talk she will say bye every now and then and say Hi all the time I try to work with her but she rather not learn and pay attention to everything around her. Her father and I seperated in July and I just got her full time as of December 3ed and I know this has affected her in all ways but how do I try to get her to talk more and stop maken noise when she wants something and say what she wants?

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User - posted on 01/02/2010

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when she turns to 3 ,you will be surprised by her language ,now she's just memorising everything but she's not ready to tell, don't rush her, u will wish the silence later on :)

Clarice - posted on 01/01/2010

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reading to her is the best thing you can do and talk to her alot! Everything i do to my son (changing diaper, etc....) i talk to him. My son didn't say much until he was 3 by then he was speaking in full sentences. Boys are slower to talk than girls they say and his pediatrician didn't say much about it.

September - posted on 12/31/2009

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You're daughter is adorable! I would suggest that you try to include her in as many conversations as you can and read, read and read some more :) Good luck!

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YOU CAN'T RUSH THEM TALKING. THEY WILL DO IT ON THEIR OWN. AND WHEN THEY DO YOU ARE GOING TO BE CHATTER BOXES.

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Linda - posted on 01/13/2010

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She will talk when she is ready. If you try to force her she will only ignore you. With your separation really dosen't matter. As long as both you and your husband is on the same page. Believe me when she decides to talk you'll wish for quiet time. I've raised 2 children and have 3 grandkids. All are different and when the time is right the time will be right. Just be patient.

Kayla - posted on 01/10/2010

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i agree with those who are suggesting that she have a hearing test done...its simple and painless... and if thats not it it could be her way of coping with the seperation.... you might also want to talk to your peds dr for her... he should be able to give you some good advice...

Tania - posted on 01/09/2010

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Everyone has really good suggestions here. Get the hearing test, considering speech thereapy, talking with/around her constantly, reading is the greatest single way a parent can encourage language. In addition though I would encourage you to be patient with her. Some children are just tempermentally less talkative than others and for those temperaments the worse thing to do is to make them feel you are angry with them for not being different. My mom said I didn't talk until I was three and today I still don't talk much, (as a therapist I am a great listener though). You didn't say if she was talking much before the separation. Was she close to her father? Does that mean she doesn't see her dad now that you have her "full-time"? That age they are developing attachments and their security in who they can depend on in their world and the sudden loss/absence of a parent can be very difficult. It's hard to explain to a 2 year old why parents separate but it is CRUCIAL that you repeatedly tell her its not her fault. But, that will heal in time. Continue all the other things suggested. Please let us know when she starts to talk more.

Melissa - posted on 01/09/2010

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talk to her a lot. when she grunts for something say "you want a banana?" My youngest just turned 2 a few days ago and she's not got a whole lot of words either. somewhere between 20 and 30 at the most.

Danniele - posted on 01/09/2010

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Hey there, My son is 2 1/2 and would prefer to grunt and make noise too. Lately I have started to push him gently by withholding what he is asking for until he makes an attempt to speak the words. He does not have to get it right, he just has to try. At first he got frustrated, but was soon trying and getting heavily rewarded with my praise and attention. Now he really does try and in just a few weeks has made some good advancements, Good luck to you. ~D

Karen - posted on 01/07/2010

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Christine instead of 'working' with her have you tried just bringing it into normal daily activities. What worked well with my kids was to talk to them all the time when doing something, sounds really wierd if you don't know what is going on but I found it really helped, for example if they wanted a drink I would say "please mum may I have a drink" and I would answer myself as if I was the child "yes X thank you for asking so nicely you may have a drink"then when I gave them the drink I would say "ta mummy". After a few times I would encourage them to say 'ta mummy' and when they say 'ta mummy' make a really big fuss so they see that it is a good thing to do. If she is doing it out of laziness you can step it up a bit and when she wants something you can say "when you say drink you may have the drink' she will probably pitch a fit but after a few times she will say it and again make a fus. Does she understand what you say to her and follow the instruction, for example can you ask her to pick up a book and put it on the table. If she does then it probably isn't a hearing issue.

My 18mth old is a real chatterbox and I attribute that partly to the fact that he is talked to all the time and when he wants something he has to use the words rather than noises. His latest when he wants something is "peas mummy" with this silly grin on his face, then if it gets it, usually does cause how can you resist such cuteness, he says "good mummy".

The main thing is not to stress and try not to take on the guilt from not being with her father, kids are pretty resiliant. All kids talk when they are ready, my middle son didn't really talk until he was 3 1/2, he did have to have some speech therapy but now you can't shut him up.

Patty - posted on 01/07/2010

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All kids start talking in their own time. Since she is not quite 2 I wouldn't worry too much at this point. However, I'm sure the separation from her father has affected her. My suggestion would be to spend extra time with her. Find some colorful books with lots of pictures in them. The animal books kept my daughter's attention the best. You can then say something like "Here is a horse. It says neigh". After repeatedly reading the book to her, you can start pointing to the picture and asking her something like "What does a horse say?" Wait for her response. If it doesn't come. No problem. Answer the question for her and keep trying. If you're really concerned or are fearful of a health issue, talk to your pediatrician and see if they think there may be a medical reason for her delayed speech. Most likely she's just not ready to talk yet.

Coleen - posted on 01/07/2010

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I know this must be frustrating to you and time and perserverance can be very trying as well...She probably doesnt quite understand that daddy is not there anymore and why.Children have funny ways of adapting to certain situations and grow and learn at different stages and levels..I dont know what your opinions on childcare are or playgroups,but I think she needs to be subjected to other kids not necessarily her own age,older helps as well. Given time especially after she realises that she is living with you permanently,she will start talking when she's ready. Time and perservance is of the essence and once realises that mummy isnt going anywhere she will build up an independence with you. Maybe the surroundings were too busy prior to living with you permanently which is why she seems distracted all the time,perhaps if you show her pictures or read her a book,or show her some letter cards,colour cards and picture cards in a quiet area she will focus a little better....good luck I hope you build a strong bond with her......................

Donna - posted on 01/07/2010

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I put my son into creche for a few hours a days a week when he was 18 months old. he wasn't really speaking much but from being around the other children his speech came on loads after he turned 2.

LYNDSEY - posted on 01/07/2010

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My daugther is 4 and half years old will be 5 in april this year and by that age she was really talking and saying loads of words because she had learnt them off cbeebies which is very good for learning young children. Even encourage her to say words and dont be afraid to keep repeating them so she learns them even get books with the electronic sounds even when giving her food like an apple keep repearting it that way she will learn. Another little bit of advice let her see you and her daddy getting on that way she feel close to one another. even plan days out together where there is her daddy and you along with youre daugther

Christina - posted on 01/06/2010

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For a gil, her developement should be fast than a boys, I would contact your local Early intervenion program. It helped my oldest son alot and his speach is now excellent, and they help you uderstand things better as well. Contact your school distric, and b sre to ask them for your local early intervention provider. Because se is not yet 3, she'll have to recieve the early intevention from home or at an early intervention day care. They will give her an at home test,( they come in to your home, ask you some questions, and play some games with your daughter) to see where she may need help, and provide you with alot of answers as well. It's free so don't hesitate on getting her the help. I am so happy I did it for my son, he was a total different child within a month after the early intevention started! Good Luck... Wish you and your family the best...

Chrissy - posted on 01/06/2010

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Talk to your doctor, ask about speech therapy or anything else you can do. Some kids like my son need extra help, you doctor can also do hearing tests other tests to find out the cause. Don't just wait and see what happens, find out what you can do to help her talk.

Stephanie - posted on 01/05/2010

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Hello My name is Stephanie and my son Jace just turn three. Have you try to social with other kids so she might pick up talks or have sit down with her and talk to her. I always talk to my son when he was 2 yrs. old and he picks new words from me or from Disney Channels. I hope its help if not I will try to provide you something else.

Amber - posted on 01/04/2010

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If the doctor says everything is ok then I wouldn't worry. My son turned 2 in Sept and just now is starting to really talk. I finally realized its that he is shy about talking so he overthinks it. When I try to get him to use more than one word, like bite please, he only says one then when prompted again the other. But here recently he started using sentences when he was upset or excited, I was amazed!! I learned that when he isn't thinking about it he can talk alot. There are all sorts of reasons that kids don't talk. Some kids would rather learn how things around them work instead of how to talk about them. It will come in time, when he is ready. Then you will have times you wonder why you ever wished that he could talk! lol!

Amy - posted on 01/04/2010

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My son is 2 years, 7 months. The kid said almost nothing for a long time. I worried about his ability to speak, to hear, etc. We sat and did a lot of picture books, pointing to objects such as boats and cars, or fish and cats. I found that he had an incredible memory early on, so I worried less. When he did start speaking, he was speaking in sentences. Kids can go through a language explosion where it just all starts to happen at once. If you've ruled out hearing loss (sometimes frequent ear infections can be the cause) or evident developmental delays, chances are your daughter will be fine. They take their own sweet time. My son is an absolute chatterbox now. I love it. I talk to him a lot. I encourage him to answer questions and have a conversation. If your child shows comprehension to images or commands, don't be worried.

Halle-Jayne - posted on 01/04/2010

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she will talk on her own. My three yr old (4 in april) just barely started talking. Even the dr. tried getting us a speech therapist.. which didn't work out in the end. I suggest keep on triing. We tried flash cards... that might help. Or baby first TV.

User - posted on 01/03/2010

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First I would suggest a hearing test just to rule that out. If that comes back ok then you may want to get her evaluated by early steps, its a program for kids up to age 3. All they do if they find any delay is play with her but at the same time will teach her to speak, sometimes they'll start with sign language as that is easier for the kids and once they start saying the words they drop the signing. Also dayCare/preschool works wonders. Good Luck!

Angie - posted on 01/03/2010

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my son is the same, and pretty much the same age. he'll be 2 in Feb. and to add on top of that, i have another one coming april 2nd. the most he'll say is nana, for banana. but he imitates everything. so its been challenging to know what he wants. i have no idea what to do. i have asked friends with kids the same age and they said that it just comes with time. i wish he would say something already, but i guess i just wanted you to feel like your not the only one. it worried me too! and im glad that im not alone or that my child is slow. its every child.

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Hi, my son said very little until he was two and a half. He just used to say "come" and "show you" a lot. Then suddenly he started talking and hasn't stopped! Just keep talking to her and do not worry about it.

Sue - posted on 01/03/2010

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my son is 2 at the end of this month and he doesn't say a word but we read lots of books and he will point to something in them if you ask him or fetch something if you ask him so i wouldn't worry she will do it in her own time then there will be no stopping her.

Terri - posted on 01/02/2010

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Have you ever gotten her evaluated for a delay? That probably sounds harsh or what not, but my son is 18 months and his pediatrician recommended to get him evaluated because he was only saying two words. They evaluated his hearing/vision to make sure those weren't concerns and then he was observed by a few therapists. Now he is in speech therapy and is learning signs for things, such as "milk," "more," and "please" and is also saying more words. He said "Mom" for the 1st time on Christmas. We left his dad when he was 8 months old and I thought this had something to do with it because we had to live in a totally different environment then where we were, I would just suggest maybe getting her evaluated or trying to learn/teach her some signs for things. I guess sometimes they pickup the movement faster than the vocal part. Hope that helps...

Brandy - posted on 01/02/2010

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My son was the same way,he didn't talk at all untill he was 2 1/2 years old.Now he wont stop talking lol. I think you just have to let her talk when she is ready,it takes time the more you push her the more she will not want to talk in, my oppinion hope all goes well and Gob bless

Grainne - posted on 01/02/2010

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my son is 27months now and can not speak a singel word my oler son who bbe 4 in march has a severe speach delay the best way to help is with using simpel lanague ie one word like t.v door shoe dinner i know can be stressful my 27month old dont interact at all i was told by s.l.t to just sit on floor beside him and do side by sde play and was everything u do it is quite amazig eve do i dont speak or interact wit my son during this play he will copy myy actions and is starting to make sounds to mimic a word

Punitika - posted on 01/02/2010

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hi christine, its okey if she isn't speaks a lot. My daughter is 2 year 1 month old after 2 now she is speaking n catching words. she understands every thing but can't speak but slowly slowly she is trying to speak also. it depends every kid is individual so don't worry some kids take time and some don't.and remember when she start speaking onces oh god!!!!! nobody can stop these girls trust me.byeeeeeeeee

Rose - posted on 01/01/2010

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Quoting Christine:

Will be 2 in April and dont really talk alot.

My daughter will be 2 in April of 2010 and she dont really talk she will say bye every now and then and say Hi all the time I try to work with her but she rather not learn and pay attention to everything around her. Her father and I seperated in July and I just got her full time as of December 3ed and I know this has affected her in all ways but how do I try to get her to talk more and stop maken noise when she wants something and say what she wants?



I was watching a little girl who was about 2 be 3 who was the same way, her father had left and she wouldnt talk or even look at you when you would talk two her. She would scream and act up when you take her places. She would watch how I would hug my grandson and she would come over and hug me bu tonly when he was around at first. And she would not eat. It was hard the first week but after that she came around. I found that she really liked candy so when she would say a word I would give her 1 mm. with in 1 month she was talking all the time. She know her colors and numbers as well. I found that if everytime she would do something even if it was wrong I would give her a big hugh and tell her I was pride that she was trying so hard.

Geralyn - posted on 01/01/2010

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Has she had a hearing test? Could it possibly be an issue with hearing? You only commented on the words that she uses, but does she understand words receptively? If you say, for example (although you should use words that you think she may know) where is the book? or get the car and bring it to me.., does she respond by looking or pointing at the book or getting the car? I think that I would start with a hearing test if I were you. I think that there would be several things that I would rule out before I decided to just wait and see. If there is a language development issue or a hearing impairment, early intervention is critical.
I don't thnk that you can conclude that she would rather not learn as if its a choice on her part.

Rebecca - posted on 01/01/2010

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My son turned 2 in November. He wasn't saying much, but he had a history of ear infections. Took him to a specialist and he had grommits put in. He can now hear alot better and has started to say a few more words too. He babbles alot, no full sentences just a few words. His father and i seperated when he was two weeks old and doesn't see him all. Not sure if this helps. One thing I do is I sit down with him every night and read picture books and he tries to tell me what everything is. He is getting there now.

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Hi Christine, my son is the same! Their speech will get there...if by 3yrs ur daughter is not really saying much...then...perhaps seek the advice of a speech therapist. 4now, love & enjoy her! Regards K

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