wont go to preschool without me?!

Tina - posted on 04/15/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




My son is 4 years old,I took him to testing for preschool...they are supposed to go in the room with a teacher, without the parent.He would NOT go without me,he totally freaked and would not let me get 2 inches from him! he used to say he wants to go to school and ride the school bus...but now he says he dont wanna go to school,he says you go with me mommy!I try to explain to him that I cannot go with him,but hes a brick wall about it! I hope I can get him over this otherwise its gonna be a rough first day for him,if he gets in...the school has limited space.But regardless of that kindergarden is mandatory so either way hes gotta get over this,its my fault for spending so much time with him,I am a babysitter and hes used to me being with him all day.Does anyone have any advice? I could really use it,I'm stumped! -Tina


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Michelle - posted on 04/16/2011




It's normal. Kids at that age have seperation anxiety issues. My twins would scream, yell, and hold on to me. I just had to peel them off of me hand them over to the teachers and walk away. I usually stayed out of sight and normally they would settle down within a few minutes. They also did this at gymnastics and swim class. I found out of sight out of mind. Eventually, I didn't have to leave the classes because it wasn't a big deal anymore to them and the same with preschool. They stopped screaming and such. Now no problems.

Just do it. If you have concerns tell the teachers to call you if he can't settle down or just stay out of sight for awhile. Some parents can't handle seeing their kids cry so hanging around without interfering might be hard.

Louise - posted on 04/15/2011




You need to separate from him a little and the only way to do this is let him spend more time with his dad and you go out or leave him with grandparents and go out. You have to prove to him that nothing bad is going to happen to him if you are not there. Also warn him before you go what is going to happen so that it is not a shock to him. Keep calling him a big boy and saying how proud you are that he is going to go with the lady and play. All children are attached to there mums you just have to stay positive with him and lots of smiles and no worrid looks. 9 times out of 10 your child will settle when you are out of eye sight so don't worry just lots of encouragement.

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