Would you get a new pediatrician?

Amy - posted on 05/13/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




Our son has been not eating well and we understand that that can be just because he is 2 1/2. We went in because he started losing weight. Well, our pediatrician treated us like we were horrible parents and sat there and lectured us about proper nutrition. He was very stern and his tone of voice sounded kind of condescending. Dh and I have been talking about how if DS's follow-up appointment goes the same way as the visit on Tuesday, we are going to try to find a new pediatrician. Would you say that this pediatrician's behavior warrants finding a new one? Or are DH and I overreacting?


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Shanna - posted on 06/09/2010




i guess it depends did you go through all of the foods your child eats and than he acted that way or was he that way from the beggining???? i would give him one more try if he is still like that right away or if he acts that way when you did not follow through on something??? just a thought. but i would also consider looking for another ped. because you do need to find one that fits your family nneeds is the key. but you may not always agree with them sometimes????

Dayle - posted on 06/07/2010




I had a pediatrician behave that way with my first son. Everytime I had asked about something I was either concerned about or didn't know, he spoke to me like I was stupid. Then he started sending my son (1year old at the time) to the blood clinic every 2 weeks for low iron. This happened for almost 2 months straight with him saying that my son looked pale everytime he saw him. I have very tanned looking skin and dh has very pale skin. Son is darker than dh and paler than me. We dropped the quack and got a real Doctor!

Crystal - posted on 05/29/2010




What does your gut say? My guess is that it is saying to fine a new pediatrician. If so, then you probably should go with it. I think Mommies sometimes just "know". Your pediatrician should be focusing on why they are loosing weight and not lecturing you for not feeding them. That gets no where. I am not a medical professional but cant they test if he is malnutritioned..if he really suspected it. Regardless, second opinions do not hurt anyway. Good luck!

Amy - posted on 05/28/2010




OP here. DS has gained some weight after following a few of the suggestions of the doctor. We are going to see how his manner is at DS's followup visit in a couple of weeks. If he is just flat out rude again, we are going to look for another one.

Julie - posted on 05/28/2010




You may be overracting. The health of your child should be his main concern, not your feelings. Yes, doctors (esp. pediatricians) should have a better bedside manner, but they can get frustrated, too. He may have been having a bad day and saw your son after his patience and being nice wore out for the day.

Give him another chance, maybe bring to his attention how you felt at last visit.

Bottom line: you and he are on the same "team" to keep your son healthy. If you don't trust each other, it's time to move on.

Christina - posted on 05/28/2010




I say look for a new one. I've been through 3 pediatricians - it's hard to find a good one. I've heard the food lecture a couple times because my kids are small. I'm only 110 pounds myself, and I weighed 18 lbs at a year old. I was hardly big, so I never understood why my kids were supposed to be. Then one doctor said something snotty to my 3 year old because she was hyper while we were there for her brother's appt. She was hyper because we had waited over 2 hours in the waiting room! Good doctors are hard to find!

Christy - posted on 05/28/2010




GET A NEW PEDIATRICIAN. Someone that assumes things and isn't listening to you warrants a firing.. You need a better DR ASAP.

Marcy - posted on 05/13/2010




Whatever you need to do to solve the problem should be your answer. I guess its hard to tell based on the info you gave us. I find it odd that he was stern and condescending unless you provided him with something that triggered that...(not saying that you did). Look, your main concern is your childs health and if he was giving you a lecture of proper nutrition and YOU know that you are providing this for your son then his response to your medical issue is not accurate and you should seek out a different doctor. If you look at it that way it seems pretty clear. Good luck. I have a little guy...he's 3 1/2 and weighs 32 lbs...he eats a lot but doesn't gain weight...wish that was my problem.

Brenda - posted on 05/13/2010




If you'd not noticed the problem then maybe it would warrant being a bit of a ass about it, but you went in for help and got a lecture -not good at all.

If you've had good experiences with this pediatrician in the past its probably worth at least discussing it with him. Maybe he was just having a bad day.

However keep in mind that most pediatricians have very little training in nutrition, so he should probably be referring you to someone.

On a side note have you tried making up smoothies? My kids love them and even I eat them a fair bit when I don't feel like eating particularly if its hot outside. You can make them with or without dairy and you can add nuts, seeds, or pasteurized eggs for added protein and fat. Also its easy to sneak some greens in.

Amy - posted on 05/13/2010




No. We just recently moved an hour away from our old pediatrician. He is our new pediatrician. He is the only one that was accepting our insurance for new patients at the time when we moved. My clinic has a couple of pediatricians and we are debating on whether to try out one of them.

Becki - posted on 05/13/2010




has he been your pediatrician for the entire 2 years? is this the only disagreement?being happy and comfortable with your pediatrician is extremly important. if for any reason you are unhappy with him i say change it up. talk to others with children and find out who they see. in 12 years i disagreed with my pediatricain once, i do not even recall what it was about.

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