would you put your child in a saftey harness, why or why not?

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Amanda - posted on 04/18/2010

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We have used a safety harness with my 2 year since she began walking. She is an independent child that is way too quick for me too feel completely safe with her just walking next to me in most places. My husband best described the reason why the safety harness is used for us and the safety of our daughter by saying " People place their animals on a harness/leash because they love them enough to make sure they stay close and don't possibly get run over by a car, so why would we do anything less for the most important thing in our lives, our child"

Tammy - posted on 04/28/2010

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I have used harnesses for all three of my children and have found them to be very helpful! They give the kids a sense of independence, but keep them safely within reach ;-). We bought the style that have the plushy backpack animals on them and the kids love them ;-). They have been especially useful for our twin boys! Teaching your children to stay by your side is great, but when you are dealing with three under the age of five a little help goes a long way :-). I don't see any difference between this and putting seatbelts on when riding in the car. It helps to keep them safe!

Jackie - posted on 04/27/2010

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Wow Curi! Everyone else on this thread conducted themselves as adults. Who do you think you are taking personal stabs at somebody preference? Seriously, they aren't leashes, you don't put them around their neck and tie them to a tree. Grow up.

I do not have a "leash" yet but I have a 14 mos old that would probably find it rather enjoyable to wear a puppy dog on her back as we' re walkin in Busch Gardens or something.

AND I DARE SOMEBODY like Curi to say anything.

Louise - posted on 04/16/2010

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All three of my kids have worn a safety harness whilst they were under three. I can't see what the problem is with them. If wearing a harness means my child does not fall flat on her face and hurt herself I'm all for them. These I see as great safety aids, she can't fall over and she is out of all harms way. I used the full harnes when my kids were small and then onto a wrist harness when they were a little older to stop them wondering off whilst I was looking after a younger child. We all take our eye off the ball occasionally whilst were out shopping especially if we have babies and toddlers so I see them as a great help. My daughter refuses to hold my hand as she likes to be independant and do things for herself. I think a harness is less restrictive than having to hold mummys hand all of the time.

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Amy - posted on 03/28/2011

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We have a backpack one that gets used about three times a year. It's usually for the times when we are in a huge crowded place and mostly just so we don't get separated. Zoos are major places for people to snatch kids. We go often without the backpack harness, BUT at christmas light shows at zoo or special family/parent/grandparent type days that draw more people, you bet your boots my 2 year old has one! My 4 year old, no. She knows better and knows if someone tries to take her to bite, scream, scratch, kick........and she knows to stay with us and hold hands.

I will soon have 3 children on my own. Baby in stroller and other 2 walking. I only have so many hands and places to put things. I have to walk along a major road to get to post office. I just don't trust my 2 year old. plain as that. Better harnessed than roadkill.

Back when I just had one, no need. When I had to nurse a baby and keep track of 2 year old, i saw the usefulness of it in public. Didn't have to use it often, but ....better safe than stolen or dead.

To use on a regular basis in my sleepy town....no. Kids have to learn to stay with you without aid, but sometimes it's very busy, or not safe and they need to be safe. They're our loved ones.

Holli - posted on 03/28/2011

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Actually, I just bought my daughter one today. I couldn't take her anywhere in her stroller because she would scream and kick and has even tipped it over on herself. And holding my hand was practically a joke, to get her to hold my hand was easier said than done! I got her a puppy shapped one thats a backpack and once she realized I'm boss and she couldn't run a muck anywhere she stayed right by my side the whole time I was shopping and walking around. Judge me if you will, but some kids I believe need that extra bit of control or they won't be safe, or learn.

Holli - posted on 03/28/2011

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Actually, I just bought my daughter one today. I couldn't take her anywhere in her stroller because she would scream and kick and has even tipped it over on herself. And holding my hand was practically a joke, to get her to hold my hand was easier said than done! I got her a puppy shapped one thats a backpack and once she realized I'm boss and she couldn't run a muck anywhere she stayed right by my side the whole time I was shopping and walking around. Judge me if you will, but some kids I believe need that extra bit of control or they won't be safe, or learn.

Candice - posted on 04/29/2010

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i have never needed to yet (my daughter is pretty calm and doesn't run around too much) but if i was in a crazy crowded place (i think of the carnival or something) i would consider it.



i think it's important to teach kids to listen and stay close, but unfortunately some kids have wild temperments (like to run!) and children get tunnel vision (they go for something and forget where they are...or where you are).



In most situations, i either let my daughter walk and never take my eyes off her, or i put her in the stroller. but like i said, something like a very crowded carnival would be the kind of place a harness might keep her within reach without forcing her to stay in the stroller.

Corinne - posted on 04/28/2010

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I was enjoying this thread and the posts. Sad how one person has to ruin it with her inexperience and immaturity by resorting to name-calling and profanity.

Claudia - posted on 04/28/2010

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I think it depends on your child. If it makes you feel safer, absolutely! I would rather have my child "on a leash" (or whatever) than running into a busy street or getting lost!

Terrie - posted on 04/28/2010

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I personally won't use one, becuse they remind me of the harnesses I use on my Yorkie. But also we don't have any use for them because here where we live the biggest crowd we deal with is at Wal-Mart or a football game and my 3yr old stays beside us & I carry my 10 month old.

Sarah - posted on 04/28/2010

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"my daughter does get out of hand and squirms pushes her heel into my chest.grabs my chest and pushes or pinches. she can do whatever she wants, she will get smacked (not hard, enough so she can feel it) and i will continue to do what i was doing." Just quoting you Curi, you did say you will smack your child.

Jen - posted on 04/28/2010

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i think this post is getting out of control now everyone is entiltiled to there opions but there is a right way to go about it curi good on you its our job to keep children safe but i think u might of said it in the wrong sort of way. and i myself use a harness on my 18 month old who is still unstable on his feet n i hold his hand but tht does not mean im not watching him 24/7 because i have to its along busy road. its peoples choices but i think its getting wrong for people keep calling our children animals they are small human beings n we am all putting their saftery first maybe in diffrent ways but if evryone was the same wouldnt we be boring.

Lisa - posted on 04/27/2010

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Absolutely! Better to have them safe and with you rather than thinking if only I would have used the harness...

Caitlin - posted on 04/27/2010

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I bought one that's like a dog backpack for my 17 month old daughter. Since we have a 2 month old as well, it's harder to keep track of both. My 17 month old will sit in the stroller, bu when she gets bored she starts to hit her sister, and although she knows she's not supposed to, who ccan blame her if she's been strapped into a stroller all day? If i'm out and the mall is busy ( only really use it in malls) i'll clip the leash onto herr backpack and let her walk beside me while I push the stroller. She's still too small to help push the stroller and HATES holding my hand, so this is the best option for me. If the mall isn't busy, I let her wander where she wants (except in stores) and follow her by pushing the stroller behind her. I wouldn't do that when it's crowded because she's fast and when she bolts in the other direction, it's dangerous to leave my other baby unattended while I run to retrieve her. If it was just the one child I had, I wouldn't have bothered because for me, where I live I don't feel it necessary.

Sarah - posted on 04/27/2010

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We used one on our daughter when she was younger, and honestly I probably would put it on her again if we were in a really crowded area. Hers looks like a monkey back pack, and she absolutely loves it! Honestly people saying it looks like a leash, be reasonable, we arent putting collars on kids and taking them for walks, its for their safety! It only takes two seconds for a child to go missing or wander off and I see nothing wrong with preventing that from happening. My daughter never wants to sit in her stroller so I found it to be very helpful!



and Curi Brobst , Other "species" don't have to worry about pedifiles and other freaks trying to snatch up their children! Anything we can do as parents to protect our children and keep them safe is just fine! If you choose not to personally use one, thats fine, but dont be judgemental of those of us that choose to go the extra step to keep our children safe and by our sides! And personally, I find you "smacking" your child to be a lot worse and primative!

Jessica - posted on 04/25/2010

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I have never used a Safety Harness, but there are times a have considreed buying one. My daughter can get a little out of control and doesnt like to hold my hand, Also fights to stay in here stroller. Just the thought of having her tied up bothers me. I dont know if I should start using one, I feel her safety comes first.

Morgan - posted on 04/25/2010

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Another thing to think about when thinking of getting a safety harness is if it is to prevent someone from walking off with your child that it isn't all that safe. If someone wants to take a child that bad a harness won't stop them all they have to do is cut the harness. A stroller or carrying them or even holding their hand is better.

Jessica - posted on 04/19/2010

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I would especially when you are in a crowed place and your toddle wants to get down and walk

Joyshayla - posted on 04/19/2010

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OK I have a 2 yr old who is well on his way to being a future track star, and I am a proud owner of a saftey harness...my son can a run a mile n not get tired...and he will do this at any time he feels like it...because of this trait we have a had a few mishaps, and accidents. It is horrifying to think that your child will runaway from you. My son doesnt really like it but its not if he likes it or not its for his safety. I used it virtually everytime we go out.

Jessica - posted on 04/19/2010

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I have a harness and i love it. My daughter is really good with holding my hand so i don't use it often but, when i am going to a crowded place I will wear it on her. I think they are cute the one i have is a tigger backpack and the tail is the "leash" whenever my daughter sees it she wants to wear it.

Isis - posted on 04/19/2010

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Hi... yes i would use it especially when im alone with both of my kids ..my son is three he wont set in the stroller or he fights with his sister over the stroller so i stopped using it,,but once he starts walking i cant see him cos he runs really fast and i dont want to go through nightmare when im out with them....good luck and no worries

Laura - posted on 04/18/2010

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I used a harness for my eldest because she didn't like being in the stroller she would scream which made for very stressful outings and she had this thing about not wanting to hold my hand. Of course that led to her running away sometimes straight for the road. I only used it to keep her safe. My youngest so far stays in stroller being as she is just over one and when she does walk she is good and holds my hand, however if it came to it i would use one for her too. After all it is for there safety and keeping them safe is part of our job.

Shannon - posted on 04/18/2010

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Laurel,
Yes it is sad to me that mom's who have knowledge to share choice not to because of the potential outbursts of some other moms. Everyone has and is entitled to their own opinion. Yes there are times that I really do not agree with that opinion but I respect it as theirs instead of criticizing them for having it. If I truly do not agree I may suggest another way of handling it but never would I say something bad about that mother because of it like I have seen some do. Thank you for agreeing! Happy parenting!!

Laurel - posted on 04/18/2010

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I agree Shannon!!!! I am new and have not posted my "opinion" many times because of what I have read on some of these boards. :)

Shannon - posted on 04/18/2010

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I just want to commend the moms in this community for how this conversation has been conducted I have contributed to this conversation in other communities and it has gotten very out of hand with moms tossing rude comments and accusations at each other instead of just stating their opinion and accepting the opinion of others!! Way to go ladies!!!!
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Amanda - posted on 04/17/2010

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I use a harness with a monkey on the back, and it is very cute, but i do not feel like i am treating him any less human then myself, he was kidnapped from us, and so the harness to us is not just to keep him with us, but to also keep anyone else from taking him, the one who took him was his birth mother, I love it and comes in very handy at chuckee cheese, we tried the stroller and other things but he is very independent, he has a beautiful story would love to share sometime! so i guess you would have to say it is up to each parent on their personal feelings

Becky - posted on 04/17/2010

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We have used a leash/or harness for my son since he was tiny....he started walking at 6 1/2 months so we used it all the time whenever he wasn't in the house because he would try to run and fall on his face....it wasn't only keeping him safe it was our way of teaching him to slow down in certain situations....since we used it to teach him to walk beside us at our pace when he was little he has no problems walking with us now just holding our hands....however if we are going somewhere that could be potentially dangerous if he were to get away from us we still use it....like somewhere that has a dog that I don't know very well, or a place with a pond, or lots of cars.....Im not willing to allow my child to get hurt simply to keep other people from critisizing me...I may not like the things they say but at least I know my child is safe and that is all I care about....

Ashleigh - posted on 04/17/2010

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You do what is best for your child and keeping them safe is every parents number one priority and responsibility! It is NOT a dog lead. A harness is used to keep your child safe from running across a busy road when you just happen to turn your head for one split second or keeping them safe from strangers in a busy place because unfortunatly there are some very dangerous preditors around and it can happen to anyone! I would much rather something that may look like a "leash" hurt my ego than something terrible happen to my child. It just makes sense!

Regina - posted on 04/17/2010

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I bought one for my daughter at Walmart....it's like a monkey or a dog backpack and it's tail is the "leash". or you can just buy the "leash" and attach it to your own backpack. I would use it when we went to Disney an in very crowded places...I wouldn't want to be stuck in a stroller all day!! She was always great just holding my hand but I would rather be safe then sorry....especially in very crowded places(like a busy mall day)! Don't listen to what other people say...if you're comfortable with it then use it. I also used mine on walks to a small lake in my apt. complex because she would've walked right in the water(until she knew better). There was a time that she wouldn't leave the house w/out it even when I told her we didn't need it...she wanted it anyway.

Melissa - posted on 04/17/2010

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I've considered it with 18 month old very willful twins. I haven't seen anything like it being sold though.

Angela - posted on 04/17/2010

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We have to use one with our daughter. She's 20 months and nearing the terrible 2's, so doesn't listen to save her life. She won't ride in the stroller anymore and depending on her mood, she may or may not hold our hand. I'd rather have her safe than run out into traffic or get lost in a crowd on me.

Jen - posted on 04/17/2010

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there not leashes they dont go round the child neck like a dog it fits round there body saftely n is used to stop them falling n hurting them selves or running off infront off busy roads. it doesnt cause them no harm so i dont see the debate i rather do tht than have my kid running off n me screaming at them n having heart failure wen he or she is in danger. the reins have been used for years n years n years. so i dont see why people have the problem. maybe its diffrent away from britain but alot of people use them where i come from.

Susan - posted on 04/17/2010

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No I refuse to put my child on a leash like a dog or other animal, that's what I think it looks like IMO. I put her in the stroller or hold her. There are other ways to keep your child safe than putting a leash on them.

Morgan - posted on 04/16/2010

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No i wouldn't i'd rather teach my kids to stay by my side. I think it makes them look like we are treating them like pets. But that is my opinion and I don't think if another parent wants to use that it's wrong it is their choice to do it and who am I to judge. Everyone does different things for a reason.

Jen - posted on 04/16/2010

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i didnt relise there was such a problem with harness my 16 month always wheres one his only been walking for two months n is still unsteady so i use to it hold him up ill hold the reins loose n hold his hand too n wen he goes to tumble i pull the reins n it gives him alittle bit support to get bk on his feet with out him hurting himself.

September - posted on 04/15/2010

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No I personally would never use one. I prefer the stroller when I feel the need to have full control (crowded areas, airports and such). Otherwise in most situations our son does great with holding our hand and walk with us.

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There are times when I have used one for safety reasons. Sometimes a stroller isn't an option and I wouldn't want my son to get away from me in a crowded area or an area where he could be easily hurt. He won't always hold my hand so the safety harness really does give me piece of mind. It only takes a few seconds for a child to disappear on you and it's the scariest feeling in the world.

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