Y does my child act up when we are in PUBLIC??

Shannon - posted on 02/27/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




well a few times we have gone somwhere she doesn't listen yells at me and she is 3 years old, I don't want to take her No where anymore :(


Sarah - posted on 02/27/2011




Before you go out explain the rules and your expectations of her. Also explain what the consequences will be for disobeying. Try to go out when it is not meal time or nap time. If you can also put in a fun activity that she may enjoy too. Know her limit too....my kids it was usually 2 hrs and then we would hit the wall. So I would try to keep outings to 2 hrs or less. Some people will also do a treat at the end of the shopping trip or the outing if they have been good. I don't like doing this because it sets a bad habit and more trouble later on.


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Shelby - posted on 03/04/2011




Sarah H. gave great advice. We also went out around nap/meal times. One times we went out and the meltdown started. I let my daughter stand there, cry, and I walked away. When she noticed I had left her, she came behind me and stopped crying. I think the little girl staring at her crying helped too. After that we didn't have another problem w/ tandrums or yelling.

Adrienne - posted on 03/04/2011




We tell our 3 boys (all under 3 1/2 years old) that if they don't listen I'll take them to the car and we'll go home. We'll do grocery shopping and if they act up I leave the cart and we walk out the store. Only time I don't do that is if I'm in line to pay.

Shannon - posted on 03/02/2011




thanks Theresa I think I will do both of them, maybe it's to over stimulated for her to go to them kind of things, she is so smart for her age the teacher at ecfe told me she is ready for Preschool not headstart

Theresa - posted on 02/27/2011




With my oldest I had 2 incidents with him that made him understand that he needed to behave in public as well as at home. The first time he was about 3 and acting up in a store. I told him f he didn't behave we would leave (he didn't want to leave). He continued to act up so I walked out right then. He begged me not to leave, but we did anyway. that taught him that I would follow through even in public. The second time he pressed things again. We were at a restaurant at the time and I couldn't just walk out. So I told him if he didn't behave I'd take him into the bathroom and give him a spank. He continued to act up, so I took him in and gave him a spank on the butt. From then on if he started acting up I'd just have to ask him if I needed to take him into the bathroom. he knew that meant a spank and he'd behave better. He still would try to push things, but a firm reminder that I was not afrain to follow through even in public got him straightened back up.

Shannon - posted on 02/27/2011




thank you guys very much! I am going to get activity stuff for like arts and crafts at home, she is very high functioning child :) she should be in headstart or preschool cause she is very smart and her mind is going all day long

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Because she knows you will let her have her way rather than face a scene in public. So set her straight. Just like Sarah suggested.

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