Holidays/ bdays without the hubby

Casey - posted on 12/02/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




What do you tell your child when hubby misses a birthday or holiday? Do they understand?

I lost my job recently and just became a stay at home mom. Luckly they understand that when dad gets a long run its good for the family. He has missed Camerons 12th bday and we had to have Thanksgiving a day early. He isnt able to attend the Christmas program, like last year.

I know they still wish dad could be there, and that tuggs at the heart strings :0(

Any good suggestions or how do you explain?




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Jacks Girl - posted on 01/29/2011




I don't have kids but I've been on the road with my hubby for 18 years, I'm retired now. First of all video tape it, take pictures what ever you can so daddy can take part when he comes home.

Be sure that your kids understand that dad is working, that it's not fun out there, that he has to use the bathroom in dirty restrooms, that he has a hard days work and just explain the best you can that he's misses them. I think kids are smart and they get that without daddy working we wouldn't have the bills paid.. Just be honest and prayer never hurts.

Lori - posted on 02/07/2010




My husband has been trucking for 9 years and has missed a lot of things with the kids. At first it was hard but they understood why he wasn't there. Now it is like a normal routine except for our youngest who is 4. When Dad is home he spends as much quality time he can so they get some Dad time. He also plans some special things to do with the kids if the money is there. Just taking them to the YMCA for a couple of hours without me makes them happy and gives me some quite time too. We explain to them that in order to keep the house, pay the bills and get them toys,etc. Dad needs to work so we can get these things.Our 4 year old doesn't like it at times but the phone calls he gets from Daddy brings a smile on his face.

Sabrina - posted on 01/28/2010




Just tell them the truth. Daddy's working and he loves them very much. We are avid Skype users. When my daughter talks about her birthday she thinks her daddy was there b/c we had the computer on most of the party and he was involved that way. It made him feel good too knowing he got to see them.

Ashley - posted on 12/02/2009




My husband has missed a couple of the kid's birthdays but we always do their party on the weekend. He misses out on a lot of his oldest sons school and extra progams because of being gone. We just tell them that he is doing it so they have somewhere to live and food and clothes. It is hard but they have to know that he is only doing it so they can be happy. I really think they understand what is going on at your sons age, but it is still very hard for them to think that daddy isnt there. It is one of those things that you have to be strong for them and for yourself. It isnt always easy but we have to try I guess.

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