Sharing with Twins rant

Melissa - posted on 12/01/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




Uggggggh! My little ones are having issues with wanting what the other one has even if its the same darn thing. My son can walk really well and had been doing so for a month or so. My daughter does not walk yet but has been doing really well pushing those little walking toys around. We have two. Whenever she goes to push it around, he'll block her and take it away. He showed no interest in the thing until she started using it. They are 13 months and I feel like a timeout wouldn't work. I try to stay out of it as much as possible and let them handle it but jeeeeez! I know this is only the beginning. growing up watching this dynamic ( My 26 yr. old brothers are twins), has shown me it only gets worse. Anyone have any good sharing rants or stories.


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Jody - posted on 09/13/2010




My boys are nearly 22months and are dreadful with this thing called sharing! They will lay down on the toy if it's small enough to prevent the other one from getting it. It's ridiculous really as while they are laying down on it, no one gets to play with it. I'm really looking forward to this phase passing. That is of course if it is just a phase!

Alda - posted on 09/05/2010




My girls are 24 months and they're great with sharing. The one will grab something off the other one, but when we ask her to give it back she will, without a fuss. The other one, however, doesn't like sharing so much. She'll grab something the other one wants, but the first one doesn't mind sharing, so doesn't kick up a fuss. Guess I'm lucky really.

Lena - posted on 08/13/2010




Love reading this stuff. My 22 mo old b/g twins are exactly the same. All one has to do is make a move for a toy and the other one is jumping up for the same thing even if he was already playing with something else. I feel like I am always mediating. They tattle on eachother already at 22 mos.

Erin - posted on 08/08/2010




The comment about the pacy made me laugh because my son never took one he just didn't like it much because he never figured out how hard to suck to keep it in his mouth but his twin sister was totally addicted to hers and he would steal it, move away from her as fast as he could chew on it for a minute and then ditch it! They are still bad about toy stealing and now resort to biting and hitting if they can't get the toy away from each other without resistence! Mine are 28 mths

Joanne - posted on 01/02/2010




My girls do the same thing. Whatever one has, the other wants it even if it is the same exact twin loves to steal her sisters paci right out of her mouth. Then she walks around with both pacies, switching which one is in her mouth every few minutes. Its hilarious and exasperating for sure!

Ria - posted on 12/23/2009




I choose not to interfere. I rather let the 2 sometimes all 3 of them sort it out themselves then have them thinking that mom has a favourite and is taking sides. I think the sooner they learn to deal with it the better.

Liz - posted on 12/20/2009




My b/g twins do the same thing. They are almost 18 and a half months ( 17 months corrected), and my son walks well and my daughter is just learning how to walk. They like to fight over the same thing as well, although it isn't nearly as bad as it was before.

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