fighting at 18 months

Pushpa - posted on 08/23/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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my twins are Daisy and Delphy 18 months old and fight for each and everything even though i get them the same thing they want what is in the other's hand the Daisy is a bit soft and plays with dolls whereas the Delphy is too naughty and keeps on pulling the dolls of her twin or beating her, at last the Daisy gets angry and bites Delphy

i have tried locking each in one room, threatening, scolding, leaving them in the naughty corner but nothing worked i'm at the wits end...
wht should i do

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Mandy - posted on 08/25/2010

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Hi, I have twins aged 2 boy/girl also girl aged 6 and boy aged 15. The twins they still fight a bit not as much as they did. You just got to learn them to share and talk to them like a older child, it worked with mine they share and swap things. They still have moments but i think thats normal beween bothers and sisters
Good luck Mandy x

Pushpa - posted on 08/23/2010

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ya even here i have the whole house covered with toys but still then they fight for the same toy eventhough i give them the same thing

Rachel - posted on 08/23/2010

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well, since they are ONLY 18 months old I don't see why you even thought to 'lock each in one room', 'threaten', or 'scold' them in any way. But that's just my opinion... I'm not one for violence or anger with children.

What we do, and yes my twins are only 12 months old, but they do the same type of thing (wanting each other's toy or book or whatnot). What we do is we put them in separate areas; whether it be a play pen or just an enclosed area where I can see and watch them the whole time, not locked away or in harms way at all EVER. We give them the toys they like, each in their separate area and they play. When it's time to be wild and crazy and run through the house and walk or crawl everywhere, they have already played with toys to themselves so now sharing isn't that big of a deal because all over the house are toys or something to play with or touch and there is never an oppritunity to want to harm each other... sometimes of course there will be that one amazing toy they both gravitate toward, BUT then in that case just monitor them, reassure them, nicely, that they need to take turns and share. Repeat the positive reassurance over and over and over and your twins will learn to be respectful and nice... trust me, my boys know how to play fair (with the rare occurance of a shared love of one toy) and they are always happy... never scolded. Just try and think positive and you'll be happier in the end too.

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