holiday---without the kids ...

Z - posted on 12/26/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




So shall I go for my vacation or not ?
My kids are okay about my going..(5 y/o twin boys)

for ten days.

the downfall .. is the their cousin who is 3 ..(husband's brothers daughter)
went for vacation today with her parents obviously ..& I leave in 5 days ...

I'm just they(kids) might be angry that they didn't go?? what do I do?


Heather - posted on 12/26/2010




I think it would depend a lot on why you are going without them. If you have been planning this and they have known about it and there hasn't been an issue before, then I don't see why there would be one now. Where are they going to be while your gone? My mom left me and my sister at our grandma's house while she and my step-father went on vacation, and we had a BLAST! Talk to your kids. See what they are thinking...


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Liz - posted on 01/03/2011




Absolutely go...My husband and I went on a cruise and our twins stayed with my mom and dad. The couple in the cabin next door took their 4yr old twins with them. All I kept thinking was "thank God we had this time alone" Parents need alone time and 5 is a good age for them to understand that. They just have to be comfortable with where they are staying. We did promise them that they would take a special trip with us when we got back and we took them the following month to an indoor water park for the weekend. They were VERY happy with that.

Hilary - posted on 01/01/2011




Hello there,

This is always a bit of a dilemma, and it comes down to whether or not you and the children would benefit from time with others. I've been lucky enough to be able to leave my children with my parents a few times and they really enjoy themselves, my folks love having them even though its exhausting and truly appreciate the compliment we pay them by trusting them with our most treasured possessions.

I'm a SAHM and my Hubby works really hard in HM Forces, we built up the time we left the kids, starting with a weekend somewhere quite close so that we were all happy that if something went wrong we could be there really quickly. The last trip we took sans kids was a fabulous 10 days in Sri Lanka celebrating 10 years of marriage! I am so grateful to my folks for making this possible, and as far as I can see everyone benefits, grandparents get special time with grandkids, Mum gets some pamper time, even just a bath and early night followed by a lie in, and Dad gets to unwind, Mum and Dad get together time which is precious and always at a premium in a family home so I definately say go for it!

I hope you have a lovely time, mobile phones are a great invention so you can say goodnight every night and hear what a great time they're having, you'll probably end up wondering what you were so worried about! x

Andrea - posted on 12/31/2010




It depends why you are going out of town. Business trip? Pleasure to get a break? My answer would be different depending on the reason. 5 year olds can enjoy a family vacation very well. I am not sure they would understand that 10 days are short. Would they be angry? Only you can know how your kids would react. Would you change plans if they could not cope? Or do you expect that they will live through it and life goes on? It doesn't matter if they heard about it, it is different than living and experiencing it. If it is your first time away, that's kind of long IMHO.

We went on a short camping vacation with our boys the first time when they were 3. They handled it well and we all had a great time. Also going away with one 3 year old is not the same as doing it with 2 3 year olds and going on vacation with one 5 year old is not the same as with two 5 year olds. You just have to pick family friendly venues so everyone gets something out of it.

The first time I was away for an overnight spa treatment as my birthday present this year after their 5th birthday. They understood it but they missed me and I missed them too. They needed a lot of entertainment from my husband for a day to keep their minds off me. I couldn't really relax and enjoy the downtime because I was thinking how they were doing the entire time. Everyone is different and if you are comfortable with your plan and you know your kids don't mind then go with it. It's a tough one to respond to because of course we don't know each other and I don't want to sound like I know what the answer is for you when I don't. I guess you are on your vacation now anyway.

Sudha - posted on 12/31/2010




You need adult time -- is it your first time with a night away from them? if so then 10 days may be too long. you should try out wknds . My 5 yr old was fine spending a night or so with grandma and grandpa or his aunt and uncle.

Z - posted on 12/26/2010





I;m still new here not sure how to post a reply , to a response.

1. the kids knew this is coming ,
2.they will be mostly with my mom dad..& they enjoy a lot out there .

3. As I said ..I thought 6 years will be appropriate acc. to me when I take them out locally too they really get tired .

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