how to keep 19 month twin girls from fighting?

Kristi - posted on 03/25/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




My twin girls are so mean to each other, thats sometimes feel that I need to not let them play together. Even if there is 2 of each toy they still fight over it. One of them well grab the other and rap her arms around the other and squeeze so hard that she shakes. They scream and hit all the time.


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Kerry - posted on 04/02/2011




I find that my 20 month old twin girls only fight when they are tired or hungry or if there is only one of an item that they both want. When they do this, i remind them that they have to share nicely or else mummy will take it away and no one will have it. If the fighting continues I take the item away, I get a bit of crying, but it's ignored and it soon stops. Then I will remind them that if they are going to share they can have their item back. Usually they will share nicely after this, offering it to the other one after a little play and visa versa. I have found it more difficult to control, biting and hair pulling whilst out in the stroller. Because what can you do to stop it when you are out and about? It's tricky that's for sure!

Kylie - posted on 03/31/2011




hi there i have 3yr girls going on 15. they both have attitudes. but yes they also fight over toys even when they both have the same thing. on the odd occasion one will pull hair but that is the extent of it. i would try putting them into seperate rooms to calm down a time out session and see how that goes. try not to use their bedroom but if that is the only way then thats fine but get them to have that time out. good luck kylie

Jeanie - posted on 03/31/2011




Good Luck honey! I have 15 going on 16 month old twins one a boy and the other a girl and they fight all the time. You find out let me know too. God Bless

Chairettie - posted on 03/31/2011




That is a good idea Megan- I have to remember that when the time comes :o) my g/g twins are not even 9 months but they do take toys from each other, pull each others hair and the younger of the two is always trying to crawl all over the her sister so I know it won't be long before it progresses. :o) thanx for the post Kristi

Frances - posted on 03/30/2011




I would like an answer for that too! mine pull hear, head butt, the biting has stopped, they shove each other and yell at each other while they wag their fingers!! They also kiss and cuddle each other - does it all even out in the end???

Kellie - posted on 03/29/2011




hi, i have 3year old twin boys n they fight all the time but they r also in there own world n thats just what they do, so i when they do hurt each other i just get them to hug it out n then there fine...

Tracy - posted on 03/28/2011




My girls only seem to fight (in a physical way) when they are tired or hungry. When they get their 2 hour nap they are fine. I do my best to make sure they get 10-12 hrs of sleep at night plus a 2-3 hr nap during the day, every day. Very rarely will they nap for less than 90 minutes. But every kid is different of course and this might not apply to your situation. Just food for thought.

Megan - posted on 03/26/2011




i have that exact same problem with both sets of my twins(b/g 19 months and identical girls 4). it finally dawned on me that they need some time apart...duh! they have always had to share and be around the same person their entire life and inutero! so what i did is have alone time. they play in seperate rooms for awhile. then also i am fortunate enough to have both sets of grandparents in the town where i live, so when things start to get bloody i give them a call and they come pick one up to go check the mail, or run to the grocery store. that way one kid gets special "mommy" time and the other gets to be spoiled by gigi or papa for a bit. it really calms everybody down, and most of the time the reunion is so wonderful and they act like its been weeks since they have seen each other. hope it helps!

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