routines

CHERYL - posted on 02/15/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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do u have your twins in a routine or not? i have had mine in a baby led routine which is similar each day but i do like to feed them 2gether they nap when they feel tired but it just depends on how they slept that night! its just that a lady stopped me to comment on the twins and she had twins and told me that they should be in a strict routine now i feel like ive been doing it all wrong.

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Monica - posted on 02/19/2010

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I think the preference of a routine varies for each family. Some families can let the babies make their own schedule. I have always had a routine for my children. I had a routine for my twins, but they were #3 & 4. My daughters were in school & preschool, dance classes, etc. They all had a bed time, 2 nap times, breakfast time, lunch time, & dinner time. With our big family and busy activity schedule it was important for us to be on a schedule. It has always been easy for us to get our children to nap at a certain time for a set amount of time when their body is used it, it just happens. When they each turned 5, nap time became rest time/quiet time. My kiddos are now 7, 7, 8, & 11 and we still have a schedule. That's what works for me & our family!!!

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Kianne - posted on 02/21/2010

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hi i have a boy and girl 16month old twins. I had them in a routine from day 1 reading the book save our sleep by tizzie hall. This book helped me out heaps these are my first children and this book helped me it gave me sample routines which i followed and still follow now. They sleep at the same time feed together take a bath together. It's so much simpler.

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Hi Cheryl
My twins are 10 now. I agree with that lady - the only way I could survived were with a very strict routine! It's very hard for the family, but very important for your own sanity. I woke the other one after I fed the first one. I never rocked them to sleep and never held them, but touched them ALL the time. I only held them when I fed them. I only had 2 arms!!! Routine is EVERYTHING to twins. Play and talk and touch them and you'll see that it's easier to raise them than 1 baby!! After their third birthday everything will be fine. But, every mom must decide for herself how she is going to do it, but it worked very well for me. (They still adore me...)

Amandaa - posted on 02/20/2010

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I have 18 month old twin boys and I used to do it like you but trust me its much easier if you start to get them on a routine...the way i do it is they are up by 9:00 am ...have breakfast then playtime untill 12:00 then lunch then nap at 12:30 and i dont let them sleep past 4:00 then dinner at 5:30 then more play time and bed at 8:00
find times that work good for you and your kids and try to do things at the same time everyday and your life will be SOO much easier

Sherrell - posted on 02/20/2010

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well with twins its kinda of hard to stay on the same routine because as they get older they start getting on their on routine, but like for me, if one of my babies r sleep, i will feed that baby, change they diaper take he or her a bath while the other one is sleep so that when i do every thing on the baby thats up it wont be hard on me when the other baby wake up and pluse every set of twins r different, see my twins on the same routine and some days they well be on a different routine, but waht i do is feed them at the same time nand after i feed them they both go to sleep, so when they go to sleep thats when i do thing for myself and enjoy the peace at that moment, when they wake up i put them on their pattie on the floor in let them play with each other until they get tied and feed and change their diaper and i will play with them for a while and they will get real sleepy in fall to sleep. but i never had a problem with my babies going to sleep at night when they where newborns but now that they r getting older their sleep time is different and plus u have to have support and help with twins cause u do get overwhemled if u dont have help cause its hard taking care of twin babies at the same time but u just got to make your own routine cause babies have their owns to and u got to work with them.

Dayna - posted on 02/20/2010

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With our girls when they were babies, we always made sure they got up together and went to bed together which worked well as one was breastfeed and the other bottle, so my hubby and I were as tired as each other, now our twins are 8 and have a little brother who is 6 they all go to bed a 7pm and sleep until 7-7.30 in the morning I wouldn't say i'm strict, it just works for us. Don't ever feel you are doing things wrong you are there Mum and mum's just know what there babies need no matter what.

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My 10 month old twins are on a fairly strict schedule, but we worked into it gradually. We started with a bedtime routine at 2mo, which thankfully led to them sleeping through the night from that point forward, and just kind of went from there. I definitely took my cues from them, and by strict I mean I am really good most of the time about following it, not that if we're out running errands I'll leave a cart of groceries just because they NEED to be napping at 1:30. IMO, not only is it super helpful for me, but for them, too. Consistency is good for kids.

Ashley - posted on 02/18/2010

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I started a routine with my twins, the day I brought them home. And I can't complain. They nap the same time and eat the same time. It makes life so much easier. They also started to sleep through the night at 2 1/2- 3 months. I would hate not having a routine to follow. How do you get things done or leave the house when you let them set their own schedule? It would be hard for me. But if it works for you, great.

Helen - posted on 02/18/2010

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other peoples opinions can really upset u,esp when u feel exhausted,i once had a man come up to me,looked at my twins and told me i should hav got rid of 1! i had to have a very strict routine as i hav 4 kids.i think the first 2 years were the hardest but other twin mums enjoyed theirs.all kids are different ,being happy and healthy is whats important,thats for yourself and your family.

Jess - posted on 02/17/2010

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Hi

My twins have just turned 4 months I dont have a routine , but the only thing I do is feed them at the same time it is a lot eaiser, and don't need to worry bout wen they are tired becaue wen they are tired they go to bed / sleep wen they are tired and always go down at the same time .

Katherine - posted on 02/17/2010

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I have a semi strict routine for my 6 month old twins. I make them take naps during the day and feed within the same hour but never at the same time (unless they are both hungry and thankfully my little man can hold his own bottle now!!)

But i found that this is the best life saver for me. I can still do things. It means i dont get to have dinner until later but it has kept my sanity intact.

Sarah - posted on 02/17/2010

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My Twin girls are almost 3 from day 1 i had them in a routine in the hospital, to make easyer when i got home when one woke for a feed i would wake the other so they fed at the same time, when they woke for a feed at night the both would be awake & hungry i would feed both at the exact time as each other 3 am i would be up holding 2 bottles i could have them fed nappy changed & burped in 15 mins & back to bed, was like having one baby i was luky to have had 2 other children so i had a bit of an idea on what to do, i belive its what works for you & bub/s it may depend on how old your bubs are it mite be to late to start them in a routine & very stressfull on you & bub/s my personal opinion is to try to have a routine as it does make it easyer, but if you cant its not the end of the world every parent has a diferant styel & ITS WHAT MAKES YOU ALL HAPPY!

Melissa - posted on 02/17/2010

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Everyone has probably done this differently but it's all going to be what works for you. Personally, I found for myself that keeping them on the SAME routine was a blessing for me. I felt like all I did was change diapers, feed them and put them to sleep. In the beginning I let them do what they wanted but I was constantly on the go and because my twins didn't sleep through the night until they were 18 months old I was sleep deprived and felt worn down. So, I decided to try getting them on a routine. I think that it's NOT about being a drill sargeant it's about being a mom and loving them and knowing that because your not in a normal situation of having a singleton that it makes your life a little, need I say little, easier. I Love my children more than anything in the world and they have never SUFFERED by sticking to a routine. My children are now 2 yrs 9 mos old and they are awesome kids!!! I would say do what you can and most importantly ENJOY YOUR BABIES!!!! Don't get caught up with what people think is right or wrong...this is crazy enough as it is and your happiness is what makes your babies happy!!

CHERYL - posted on 02/17/2010

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THANKS FOR THE REPLIES I WAS STARTING TO FEEL REALLY CRAP ABOUT IT ALL.I WILL CARRY ON AS USUAL XX

Christie - posted on 02/16/2010

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I have 22 month old twin girls. Both girls had to stay in the hospital for awhile and the doctors put them on the same feeding schedule. So it was easy for me to keep that schedule when they came home. As for the rest of their schedule, I try to keep it flexible. They take an afternoon nap everyday but it is not at a set time. This has worked great for me so far. Keeping their schedule somewhat flexible helps tremendously when we are not home (visiting family, going to the store, etc.). Although, when it is naptime or bedtime, it is for both of them. Each child is different and you have to figure out what works best for you and your twins.

Heather - posted on 02/16/2010

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I have had my 20 week twins on a schedule since birth. I love the predictability of it and I think the babies also like knowing what is to come. They are like clock work. A few minutes before it is time to eat they start to fuss to let me know. lol I believe I am the parent and I am the one that has to tell them what they need and when.

Lisa - posted on 02/16/2010

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I have almost 4 month old boy/girl twins and the only routine they are in is feeding and bedtime. They get fed around the same times every day and they go to bed at the same time every night. Other than that they pretty much take naps when they are tired and play when they feel like it. So far it has not been a problem.

Nadene - posted on 02/15/2010

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I feel it's what works for you to make you a happy mum. I have twin girls who are 9m & have always had them in a routine, but this is mainly for me as it's less stressful & my day is more predictable. In saying this I am flexible & the twins seem to like the routine as they know what to expect - and I have heard child experts say children need routine as it creates stability. As long as things are working for you, you're getting enough sleep and some time to yourself then I wouldn't worry too much.

Julianne - posted on 02/15/2010

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My twins are 4mths old and I would say they have a daily routine which consists of them feeding together at all meals (bfed obv), even if one is cracking it I just give them a break for a bit then put them back on, it takes longer but so be it. I'm not really fussed on their morning sleeps, they usually have a half hour one in their prams, then I feed them at 12noon or 12.30pm and then put them in their room to sleep and they usually sleep for about two or three hours, one will usually wake earlier than the other so I take her out of the room and wake the other when it gets to feed time again around 4.30pm, then feed them again at 7.30pm and put them to bed for the night but otherwise I don't have a strict routine, just like the bedtime to be the same time each night preferably. If we're not home, it's a little diff, I do wrap them in the arvo's so they will either sleep or not sleep if we are out and they might go to bed later if we aren't home also but there's not much we can do about that. I wouldn't panic, some people like routines, others don't. I like to stick to the routine around their bedtime the most but even that can come undone at times. You do whatever feels best for u!! Your their mother and you know what's best for them, not anyone else! Good luck! Being a mother of twins can be bedlam at the best of times. lol :)

Ashley - posted on 02/15/2010

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my twins make their schedule... and I follow that.... i ALWAYS feed them at the same time... if one if hungry and the other is sleeping i will wake them up to eat also... other than that they pretty much set the schedule

Kate - posted on 02/15/2010

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My twins are almost 7 months old. We don't have a set routine. l do try to feed them baby food around the same time everyday. And in the evening l have them watch Baby Einstein dvd's to help them unwind while l have dinner and clean up afterward. Other than that, there is no routine. How do you get a baby to nap at a certain time for a set amount of time? l'm glad l wasn't her child.

lf your babies are growing and are happy,and you have your sanity, you're doing a great job. Don't let one drill sargeant get you down. As for my sanity, winter is really getting to me, having twins isn't.

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