Twins VERY different from eachother

Amber - posted on 07/14/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )




I have twin boys who are amazing. The oldest twin is just learning things and talking, a little daredevil! The younger one is just more content to not talk and to read or play with puzzles. I am just wondering of this is a normal thing?


Jenny - posted on 07/18/2011




absolutely! My twin girls have different time tables. One is more adventurous and wants to do things fast. The other one does things when she is good and ready. No one can force her before she WANTS it.


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Tarina - posted on 07/19/2011




Being born at the same time makes them siblings, and sure they will share a certain bond beyond that of any other siblings, but they are still two individual kids :) Every kid is different, I have a 10 yr old who loves to read and now play video games, loves to learn and loves animals. I have a 2 yr old who is VERY active, always moving always climbing and running and curious. I also have twin baby girls about to turn 1, one of them is VERY active just like her brother (has been walking since 10 months, climbing almost out of the crib and playpen already, etc) and one that loves to cuddle and sit and play quietly, has barely put any effort into standing without holding onto things, much less walking. Perfectly normal!

Therese - posted on 07/16/2011




My twin boys are opposites too. from day one i noticed this. now that they are older one is very outgoing and friendly and the other is more reserved and shy. one likes sports and the other does not. embrace their differences. they are each individuals.

Jane - posted on 07/15/2011




Yup! Perfectly normal. You don't say if the boys are identical twins or not, but even womb position can affect a child's personality. I know that my brother's best friends growing up were identical twins but were total opposites when it came to personality. I have found that one twin is often the leader and the other the follower, whether identical or not.

Identical twins have the same genes, but each is affected by environment, experience, and many other things, making them become two different individuals. Non-identical twins won't be any more similar to each other than any two siblings.

User - posted on 07/15/2011




Just because they are twins does not mean they have to be on par or like doing the same things. They are individuals!! :)

Christiana - posted on 07/15/2011




My boys have been different as night and day since day one. One is very outgoing and makes friends easily and the other isn't. They learn things at different rate with different things; when one has it mastered he helps his brother to learn how to do it also.

Alda - posted on 07/15/2011




I have twin girls who will be 3 in August. The one started walking a whole year before the other one, and she's already talking in full sentences while the other one is just starting to string more than 2 words together, and not very clearly. The first one is a little daredevil and the other one much more cautious. They are like night and day. They do things in their own time and unless there is an obvious developmental problem I really wouldn't worry :-)

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Yes, they may look the same, but they are individuals. This is a good thing! My twins have completely different personalities. We are lucky! Some twins are so inseperable, that they have a difficult time learning and dealing with everything in life. It is also important to embrace the differences.

Kim - posted on 07/14/2011




My boys are total opposites also. One is very into learning everything, points and tries to talk... and wants to know what everything is. The other one just doesn't seem to care about anything but being with mommy.

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