We are expecting twins and I'm scared/worried...Can I handle our 4 year old, 2 year old and now twins?

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Hi there everyone! I'm new at being a twin mummy as I only found out 4 days ago that we are having twins. I have to say I am pretty scared about it, not the birth, but being able to handle the twins as well as our 4 year old and 2 year old...So many things will have to change and at this point I think have just been focusing on the negatives of the stuation because it came as such a shock! We only wanted to try for 1 more bub (hopefully a boy as we have 2 daughters) and then BAM...TWINS! Can anyone out there who is in the same situation (or anyone really) give me your thoughts and ideas please? I guess I just need to know from others that it IS possible : )


Reene - posted on 07/17/2012




I giggled when reading this, not about you but me. I was in your same position, I had a 4 year old & 18 month old when out twins were born. I was so worried my hole pregnancy, I only thought of the worst things. The second they were born all the worries went away:) they are now three months old & I don't have help & do it all myself. Life in now good! I'll tell you one thing, it does get very hard but it will only get better. I'm sure you will do just fine:) hope this help, good luck.


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Thanks guys! I am slowly getting used to the idea of having twins. I've been including the girls already (well my 2 year old has no idea what I'm goiong on about), my 4 year old loves 'kissing the babies' and keeps asking me when she can cuddle them lol. I am 11 and a half weeks and already I'm starting to show, so it might make it easier for my 2 year old to understand what's happening as I get bigger. I love all of your ideas and stories, it helps me alot! Tara, good luck to you and your kids. In a way I can't wait to be at the end to hold them : )

User - posted on 08/11/2012





I thought I was alone. I have a 6 year old and a 4 year old and just moved back in with my mom (temporarily). I am 31 weeks (monday) pregnant with twins. I was scared about everything, how clingy my 4 year old will be because he stays under me now. My 6 yr old is independent and will be a big helper. Then on top of the 4 yr old I am considering having a VBAC for the second time. My body is tired but im trying to let them come on their own (my fiance wants me to try more than I do). But everything will be ok, a lot of times a child wants to help so just always include them when u are doing for the twins. My 4 yr old loves when I just ask him to go get something for me.. GOOD LUCK AND NOT TO MUCH LONGER NOW!!!!

Wendy - posted on 07/27/2012




Hi Theresa
I had the opposite to you i was lucky enough to get twins first then i added 3 more i had 5 under 5 but heres the thing with twins they are soooooooooo much easier than single babies yes theres 2 of them they will quite happily keep each other occupied dont seperate them straight after they are born they just spent the first 9 months together they dont want to be seperated i found that out the hard way nothing to be scared of they are not as demanding as a single baby

Morven - posted on 07/27/2012




one of the best tips is to just establish a routine that works around everyone, it makes things easier for feeding/bathing/ bedtime etc. you will be fine honest just don't try and over stretch yourself and Congrats aswell xx

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Amanda I am only 8 weeks so I feel lucky that we have alot of time to get used to the idea and hopefully get sorted. I agree that it'll be hard, I'm not in denial/dillusional at all in that respect and I just HOPE that everything will be fine. Looking forward to double the hugs/love though : ) Good luck to you as well.

Amanda - posted on 07/18/2012




Theresa I am in the same situation. I have two boys 5 and 3. We are 22 weeks with g/g fraternal twins. I am worried about it too. But I know everything will be fine. Hard, but fine. Good Luck!! BTW how far along are you?

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Ashlie, I can understand what you're saying. A 7 and 5 year old may get a bit confused about what's happening I guess and a 2 year old may not have a clue (mine doesn't) so I guess all you can do as it get's closer is just let your 2 older ones know what is probably going to happen and just keep letting them know that you love them just as much as the babies, no more, no less. I'm going to try and include my girls as much as I can with the babies, before and after they're born. I plan on taking our 4 year old into at least 1 ultrasound so she can see what happens etc. She is very motherly at the moment so I hope she enjoys the babies and doesn't feel threatened by them in any way : )

Leslie - posted on 07/17/2012




I had my twin boys a week after my other boy turned 2. I am a stay at home mom and if you stay home my best advice is to get them taking an afternoon nap at the same time to give you that break. Also, get them to bed at the same time (or as close to possible when the twins get older). People will point out how everything (negative) is doubled, I always tell them that I get twice the smiles. It is hard, but so possible. You will love it!!!! And you don't need 2 of EVERYTHING.

Ashlie - posted on 07/17/2012




I am in a similar position as you. I have a 7yr old boy, 5 yr old girl, a 2 yr old girl and 27 wks pregnant with b/g twins. We were not even planning on having 1 more so when we found out there were 2 we were completely taken back. I'm not worried about when the babies come home because I know it will be a challenge, but I know things will fall into place. I am more worried about how I am going to cope the first few wks when my twins are still in the hospital. (My Dr is hoping to get me to 32-33 wks). I am worried that while I am at the hospital with the twins my other children will feel neglected and that mom loves the babies more.

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